Solo Women Travel Tribe Podcast With Xena Jones

What is your opinion of yourself? Our opinion of ourselves is what we think about ourselves. And our thoughts about ourselves determine how we feel about ourselves. Our opinion of ourselves is the only one that matters. Your number one job is to sell yourself on you & you'll feel f*cking awesome! Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: www.xenajones.com/consult INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

Toxic positivity is the assumption that you should be positive all the time even in difficult situations. This approach is damaging because it doesn’t allow room for how we genuinely feel & it further re-enforces the lie that we shouldn’t feel bad or we shouldn’t experience negative emotions, which simply isn't true. The positive reframe is acknowledging what’s going on - what feels true for you & exploring what else you know to be true through a more encouraging & supportive lens. When the time is right positively reframing our experiences help us move forward & feel better. Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: www.xenajones.com/consult INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

In this episode we explore the idea of worry windows & how to create a specific window of time in which we can worry. Instead of spending so much of our time worrying unnecessarily & robbing ourselves of enjoying our lives. Our brains love to worry & create problems. This often leads to looking for problems where there aren't any & creating unnecessary suffering. Instead lets create a future time to worry about this IF it does become necessary. Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: www.xenajones.com/consult INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

We absorb messages throughout our lives that form our opinions of how we should act & what we should or shouldn't do in our lives. This social conditioning is the reason that we, as women, people please. We are constantly taught to under value ourselves, to go along, to not make waves or speak up. In this episode we explore the way out of people pleasing & towards having your own back . Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: www.xenajones.com/consult INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

When saying yes creates bitterness or resentment, then saying no is the most honest & loving thing we can do. Saying no is saying yes to ourselves. How we say no matters. Often we leave room for second guessing & discussing our decision - In this episode we explore how to say no with confidence. Saying no isn’t a boundary. Saying no AND follow through with action is a boundary. We explore the difference between healthy & unhealthy boundaries. Plus Xena shares 3 simple steps to use when setting boundaries. Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: https://www.xenajones.com/consult INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

In this episode Xena is sharing 3 tips for getting sh*t done. 1. Minimum baselines 2. Planning to NOT want to do it 3. Having your own back We explore exactly how to apply each of these to your life. And what each strategy helps you to eliminate and create in your life. Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: https://www.xenajones.com/consult INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

In this episode we are exploring why we second guess ourselves. How other people can't 'make' us second guess ourselves. Xena demonstrates the relationship between self-doubt, fear & courage using a powerful story. And we explore why second guessing isn't useful and what to do instead. Be sure to join us for Have Your Own Back week by following this link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/haveyourback Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

BONUS: How To Get Sh*t Done Class INVITE (time Sensitive) by Solo Women Travel Tribe Podcast with Xena

Today Xena is sharing with you 5 things she wished she knew before travelling solo. She brings her 6+ years working in the travel industry, with 40+ countries visited (many of them solo) and the mindset expertise from her coaching. We explore safety, feeling nervous, how to have a good experience even when baad things happen, what you need to know before you go & loads more! Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

This past week I've had covid (omnicrom) & today I coached myself on making this a big deal & how it was impacting my return to work... What makes something a big deal? Our thoughts about it - more specially the amount of brain space we let it take up - how much time we spend thinking about it. We use the term big deal for things that are both good & bad or positive or negative in our lives. In this episode we are exploring: - Why making something a big deal often doesn't serve us - The story we tell ourselves when we make it a big deal - Unnecessary pain we may create - What we make it mean when other people in our lives don't make it a big deal Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

What is your top priority in your life right now? Did your day yesterday reflect that? What about this past week? In this episode we are exploring how to determine our top priorities, how to know if we are living inline with these & when to make changes. Xena shares with you her top priorities & what she has noticed that hasn't been inline with these of late & the changes she is making. We also explore the term 'balance', using the elimination strategy & how to create decision filters using our priorities. Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

In this episode we are exploring: - What it means to be triggered - The fight, flight, freeze & fawn responses we go into - Calming our nervous systems to create our own safety & be able to recommend our authority - The difference between big T and little t trauma Connect with Xena below: BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach

Caring what other people think is normal & it doesn’t have to be a problem… Unless it’s stopping you from being who you want to be, doing what you want to do with your life. In this episode we explore the 4 steps Xena took to stop giving AF what other people think & how you can apply these to your life.   No longer giving AF what everyone thinks is the ultimate freedom! Connect with Xena below: INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

In this episode we are exploring... 1. Understanding fear. Where it comes from, how it serves us & why it shows up. 2. Exploring the worst case & how powerful this is 3. Creating a fail plan - deciding ahead of time what you will make it mean if you fail 4. Calming your nervous system Fear is only debilitating when we listen to primal part of our brain telling us it is life or death. Fear isn’t a reason not to take action towards what you want, its simply showing you the way. Connect with Xena below: INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

My brain loves to tell me this is too hard so I either shouldn’t do it or I should do it later... this innocent little thought feels so true. In this episode we explore HOW to do hard things, cognitive dissonance (why it feels so uncomfortable) & why procrastination leads to us feeling bad Vs the pride & genuine satisfaction that comes from doing hard things. Connect with Xena below: INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

We all have an emotional comfort zone - this is the emotions we experience most often. Like being at home - you feel comfortable in your own home environment we have emotions in our body that feel comfortable. Even if this emotional emotional comfort zone (CZ) is hurting you your subconscious brain will keep leading you back to it because it’s most familiar, it is what you know. It's a habit. If your emotional CZ is different to what you need to feel in order to attain your goals then you will experience self-sabotage. Self sabotage = self protection In order to change your emotional CZ you must practice how you want to feel. Whilst reminding yourself that you are safe & that you have your own back. Connect with Xena below: INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: http://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

This week we are diving into procrastination - how we do it, why we do it & how to stop doing it. So many of us procrastinate our dreams & we could do this until we die. We explore the motivational triad - how our brain is wired to avoid doing anything it perceives as hard or uncomfortable & how we must reverse these desires. We also talk about perfectionism & how this comes into effect with our procrastination. And as always Xena shares with you examples from her life & the lives of her clients. Connect with Xena below: INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

In this episode we explore what self-belief looks like & how you can copy & paste it from one area of your life to another. We identify where you are already believing in yourself & we use that to fuel new beliefs for your goals, for what you want to change or create in your life. Xena shares with you her own powerful beliefs about solo travel & exactly how she's been able to use these to help with self belief in other areas of her life. Connect with Xena below: INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

I have spent the past few months on a friendsperiment journey (aka making new friends) and this week I am sharing with you 8 of my lessons. You will hear both my success stories & my not so successful stories. What I decided to make it mean when I was rejected & how I had my own back. Plus tonnes of recommendations for making new friends as an adult. Connect with Xena below INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/xenajonescoach BOOK A FREE CONSULT: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/consult

We have another special guest expert this week! Michelle Runnels... In this episode we have powerful conversation that covers: - The differences between how men & women operate (our caveman brains) - Making friends as women & challenges we face - Relational agression - Common struggles we have as women & how to overcome them Connect with Michelle here! Instagram: @momcoachmichelle Facebook: Mom Coach Michelle www.Michellerunnels.com Want a to have a free brainstorming chat about what’s possible? Schedule with me here: https://calendly.com/michellerunnels/consult