Reality Bytes

For the 4th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & chanteuse Scout Durwood to chat about her new musical comedy album Take One Thing Off. Our conversation runs the gamut, touching on topics including: the history of burlesque, Dita Von Teese, solving a 6-year mystery for Dave, testing your sexuality, lesbian clothes swapping, body shaming your partner (don't do it!), the correlation between homosexuality & intelligence, pansexuality as a universe baseline, breakups, learning to let go, turning heartbreak into art, the lost art of setting up single friends, marriage, monogamy & acknowledging that most relationships end – plus Sofiya fills us in on their search for a surrogate. For more Scout Durwood: Buy her album Take One Thing Off Watch her in our trailer for The Clapback Follow her on Twitter @scoutdurwood Follow her on Instagram @scoutdurwood If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy r

For the 3rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship coach & author Matthew Solomon to discuss his new book Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era. We chop it up about the "actually" guys, the emotional labor of explaining the #MeToo movement to men who don't get it, the friend zone, how to handle & reframe rejection logically, the safety factor for women, why toxic masculinity hurts boys/men as much as girls/women, the danger in perpetuating gender roles, redefining what it means to be a provider, chivalry, tantra, magick with a "k" & so much more! For more Matthew Solomon: Order Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era Check out coachwithmatthewsolomon.com to learn more about his relationship coaching practice Follow him on Twitter @mattytheglue Follow him on Instagram @mattytheglue If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices.

For the 2nd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Ignorance is #Blessed podcast Jessica Michelle Singleton to talk about her new solo show Codependent Arising, which will be playing at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival August 2nd through 26th. We get into her last horrible breakup, the Eat Pray Love moment that inspired the show (going on 10-day silent meditation retreat), breakups in general, growing up with an alcoholic parent, abandonment issues, codependency, the quality of road dick for female comics & self-imposed celibacy (sort of).  For more Jessica Michelle: Get tickets to her show if you're going to the Edinburgh Fringe! Listen to her podcast Ignorance is #Blessed Follow her on Twitter @JMScomedy Follow her on Instagram @jmscomedy If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 1st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, along with new co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship self-help gurus & real-life married couple Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola to discuss their new book How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking. Greg & Amiira are also the bestselling authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken & It’s Just a F***ing Date. They drop so much tried & true wisdom in this episode – it's a must-listen to set yourself up for wedded bliss! For more Greg & Amiira: Order How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking  Listen to their podcast Maybe It's You Follow Greg on Twitter @gregorybehrendt Follow Amiira on Twitter @MsAmiirica If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*We apologize for the delay in releasing this final episode. There was an issue with Wade's sound that we were hoping to fix, but alas, this is the best we could do. Also maybe we didn't want it to be over. ;) Enjoy! REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 22nd (& final!) episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to welcome their significant others, comedian & Who's Your Sign? podcast co-host Julia Loken & restaurateur Wade McElroy, to discuss meet cute stories, early relationship misfires, the monogamy vs. boyfriend/girlfriend conversation & what it's like when your partner has a sex & dating podcast.  This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). And if you like good eats, check out Wade's restaurants: Horsethief BBQ at Grand Central Marke

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 21st episode of season 3, the pair welcome actress Joy Nash (Dietland, Twin Peaks) for a deep ep about the lessons death teaches you about life, why it's so important to nurture a great relationship with yourself, dating app fatigue, her ideal beau (rhymes with Mavid Marber) & her amazing Dietland casting story – plus Courtney & Steve share their high school sexploits. This episode is brought to you by FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 20th episode of season 3, the duo chat with porn actor & debut author Logan Pierce on his new book of autobiographical fiction Between the Sheets: Rise of a Working Stiff (under the alias J.R. Verlin), why he chose to use a pen name, the 1st time he saw sex onscreen, how he took practical steps to accomplish his dream of becoming a porn performer, moving to Hollywood, what happened when his parents finally found out, why he's found it easier to date within the industry, meeting his current girlfriend on-the-job, the widespread use of Viagra on porn sets, what it's like to bomb as a porn performer, society's incorrect stereotype of women in sex work, his role as a male cheerleader & how he keeps a lid on objectifying women, why he decide decided to write a book about his experiences in porn & his favorite part of the book (hint: gang bang) –

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 19th episode of season 3, the pair welcome comedian & writer Riley Silverman for a great chat about growing up with a lack of a queer conversation, crossdressing at a young age, shifting on the Kinsey scale post-transition, the crucial role of transgender women of color in the Stonewall riots, what it was like to wear a dress in public for the first time, being a standup comic coming out "on the job," dating a fan, the long journey to a swift shift in media inclusivity, the timing factor in relationships & no-fault breakups – plus Courtney & Steve talk period sex, mismatched libidos & the worthwhile work of a relationship sex. NOTE: Riley's gender confirmation surgery was unfortunately cancelled at the last minute by her insurance company - do better insurance companies! Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 18th episode of season 3, the duo chat with former host of Dinner and a Movie & current host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour, Paul Gilmartin, about what inspired him to start the hit podcast, how to be a good partner to someone struggling with depression, abusing drugs & alcohol & the crutch of self-medication, how suicidal thoughts at the height of his success made him realize it was time to get help, intimacy issues & emotional incest, getting sober & dealing with divorce – plus some of his favorite episodes of his show. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 17th episode of season 3, the pair chop it up with filmmaker, photographer & musician Tao Ruspoli (who also happens to be the son of an Italian prince & the ex-husband of Olivia Wilde) about his new documentary Monogamish, featuring Dan Savage, Esther Perel, Stephanie Coontz & many other prominent figures in that field. We deep dive into the project's conception, his interesting childhood, different shades of non-monogamy (open relationships, polyamory, etc.) & how to manage the paradox of monogamy – plus Courtney & Steve discuss the Lena Dunham/Jack Antonoff split. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). Please rate & review to tell us what you love!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit meg

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 16th episode of season 3, the duo welcome photographer extraordinaire Maggie West back to the show for her 3rd interview – except this time she brings her bangin' hot sexbot Luci 6000, created for a holiday installation at the Museum of Sex in NYC, on now through February 15th. We talk the overhyped millennial sex slump, smartphones as a breeding ground for casual coitus (or not), media satire, Luci's little black book & how pretty much everyone is sprung on the idea of robot sex – plus Luci shares her pro sexting tips. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 15th episode of season 3, the pair go deep with D'Lo, queer/transgender Tamil-Sri Lankan-American actor/writer/comedian & co-producer of Disoriented Comedy, on growing up in Lancaster, being Hindu in a Baptist Christian school, the horror of having to wear a dress on special occasions, the gender flexibility of hiphop fashion, the first time he kissed a girl, late night rendezvous with his college dorm RA, coming out (twice), avoiding arranged marriage, social justice spoken word, his dope queen, transitioning, to T or not to T, his second puberty, the power of testosterone against tears & the evolving media landscape – especially in terms of queerness & gender identity. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love!   Learn more about your ad choi

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 14th episode of season 3, the duo sit down with comedian & skateboarder Whitmer Thomas on going through a breakup, therapy, honesty, high school relationships, hooking up on being what it once was, the perks of being a delivery boy, being from 'the wrong side of the tracks,' pure love, co-dependence, romanticism as a worldview, Instagram as a dating app & just wanting to get back to fucking all his friends. MERRY CHRISTMAS, EVERYONE (if you don't celebrate the religious or commercial holiday, we wish you secular good vibes)!!! This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today) & the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 13th episode of season 3, the pair sit down with Alix McAlpine, host of the Swipe Out podcast & Director of Content Strategy at GIPHY Studios, to talk faux relationship mindfucks, how cupid killed season 1 of her podcast, manifesting one's perfect partner through a list of ideal attributes & falling in love with "good vibes" Gabe – plus Courtney gets into an accident & Steve recorded his album (!!!). This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 12th episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to interview author, sex educator & feminist activist Jaclyn Friedman about her new book Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All. Thank you to The Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood for hosting this live show. They are also offering a great deal on Unscrewed, so buy a copy for yourself & give it as the gift that keeps on giving this holiday season: thepleasurechest.com/unscrewed.html! This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today) & BarkBox (visit barkbox.com/reality for a FREE EXTRA MONTH when you subscribe to a 6 or 12-month plan). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 11th episode of season 3, the pair sit down with very funny comedian, former Playboy columnist, current Cheetahs dancer & host of the Kasey's Freek Show podcast Kasey Koop to chat about stripping as her favorite job everrrrr, hipster bitches being annoying up in da club, alcoholism, sex addiction, suicidal thoughts, sobriety, the fact that social media is a drug, managing our mental health demons, mommy issues, co-dependence, doing the hard work of making healthy relationships work & changing cultural tides on sex work – plus Courtney & Steve talk Thanksgiving & escape fantasies. Angelenos, you are formally invited to our live show tomorrow Thursday 11/30 at 8pm with very special guest Jaclyn Friedman, author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. Please ra

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 10th episode of season 3, the duo welcome Barbara Gray (very funny comedian & Lady to Lady co-host) & Alana Hope Levinson (deputy editor of MEL Magazine) to unpack the long-time sexual harassment & assault epidemic that has been sweeping the headlines lately – as well as discuss dating in the BDSM community, courtship in NY v. LA, toxic attraction v. compatibility & share some good old-fashioned dating horror stories.    Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 9th episode of season 3, the pair chat with comedian, animator & Bechdel Cast co-host Jamie Loftus about wanting to be a surrogate, body issues, dating apps, the bliss in establishing clear romantic v. platonic intentions, her quest to lose her virginity before turning 18 (& go on to create a hit show about it), the struggle to correctly identify & treat mental illness & "I want to kill myself" as a sort of safeword in the ER. This episode is brought to you by Casper (get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/BYTES & using BYTES at checkout). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 8th episode of season 3, the duo welcome birth doulas & reproductive health educators Natalia Hailes & Ashley Spivak of Cycles + Sex on male PMS, why the word mucus needs rebranding, benefits of a vaginal birth & how to make the best use of the signals your body is sending you – plus Steve confronts Courtney about being a texting nerd. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 7th episode of season 3, the pair welcome standup comedian & writer Sara Schaefer on identifying & confronting her internet troll, going through the stages of divorce, long-term relationship touch-ups & her recent series Woman Online – plus Courtney tells on herself, Steve reviews Dan Gill's wedding (congrats GillCon!!!) & we all solve the sexual harassment epidemic. This episode is brought to you by BarkBox (visit barkbox.com/reality for a FREE EXTRA MONTH when you subscribe to a 6 or 12-month plan). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices