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Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 216th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of ⁠⁠This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession⁠⁠. In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood. For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon: Follow Cameron on Instagram ⁠⁠@cameron_dezen_hammon⁠⁠ Follow Cameron in TikTok @thevaginaauntie Buy Cameron's book ⁠⁠This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession⁠⁠ Check out Cameron's website ⁠⁠camerondezenhammon.com⁠⁠ Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, whi

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Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 214th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Matthews, abortion doula and author of You or Someone You Love. In this interview, Hannah shares her personal experience with abortion and her work as an abortion doula supporting others through the process, and how that work has helped her confront her own shame and discomfort around sex and bodily autonomy. She also discusses the misconceptions people have about abortion, the importance of pleasure in the equation, and her experiences with anti-abortion rhetoric and harassment from public figures like JD Vance. Hannah is currently working on a new memoir exploring chronic illness and sex, which we talk about a little bit at the end. For more from today's gues

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 213th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes fertility specialist, author, and Harvard scholar Gabriela Rosa for a primer on getting pregnant when nothing else works. In this episode, Gabriela shares both her personal and professional journeys that led her to help over 140,000 people across 111 countries achieve their dreams of parenthood, with a remarkable 78.8% success rate and nearly half conceiving naturally. We discuss the importance of identifying the root cause of fertility issues, the role of personalized treatment plans, and the long-game power of diet, exercise, and lifestyle in reproductive health. Gabriela also shares her signature advice: act pregnant now to get pregnant later. Whether you want a baby

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 212th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and teacher Jacqueline LeKachman for a candid Gen Z dispatch on sex, consent, and dating culture. In this episode, Jacqueline shares her experience of losing her virginity at 22—a moment that left her feeling disconnected from her body and later revealed itself as an instance of sexual compliance: saying yes to sex without truly wanting it. We explore how she processed the experience, what it taught her about desire and boundaries, her evolving views on relationship models, and where she’s at on the sex and dating front today. Jacqueline gives us a fascinating glimpse into the Gen Z dating scene. For more from today's guest, Jacqueline LeKachman: Read Jacquel

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sorry for the slight publishing delay, Privates! I’ve been traveling and got my days mixed up. Thanks so much for your patience—I appreciate you! For the 211th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Nancy Reddy, author of The Good Mother Myth. In this episode, Nancy shares her personal journey into motherhood, including the emotional challenges of postpartum life and the complicated tension between ambition and societal expectations. We dig into the historical roots of modern motherhood, spotlighting mid-century male psychologists whose work on attachment theory shaped how we think about parenting—often at the expense of the women in their own lives. It’s a smart, illuminating, and deeply relatable conversation about care

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 210th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cris Mazza, author of the new memoir, The Decade of Letting Things Go. The book traces Cris’s journey through the aftermath of menopause and her search for self-acceptance amid a growing list of losses. In this episode, we discuss her lifelong experiences with anorgasmia, sexual dysfunction, and gender dysphoria—and how these shaped her relationships, identity, and creative work. It’s a fascinating and refreshingly honest conversation about intimacy, identity, and what it means to let go of expectations. For more from today's guest, Cris Mazza: Check out Cris's website cris-mazza.com Order Rachel's book ⁠⁠The Decade of Letting Things Go Psst, Courtney has an 0nIy

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 209th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Leslie Lebowitz, a clinical psychologist specializing in psychological trauma, sexual exploitation, and violence. Leslie served as an expert witness in two civil suits brought against Girls Gone Wild founder Joe Francis on behalf of underage girls who had been featured in his pornography. In this interview, she unpacks her takeaways from the lawsuits, including the coercion tactics used by the company, the psychological toll on the young women involved, the disturbing victim-blaming that occurred, and the cultural attitudes that allowed Girls Gone Wild to flourish with little accountability. We also discuss the fine line between empowerment and exploitation. Courtney shares h

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠. For the 208th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Rachel Kramer Bussel, author of How to Write Erotica and editor of over 70 anthologies of erotica, for a lesson in writing erotica. For more from today's guest, Rachel Kramer Bussel: Follow Rachel on Instagram ⁠@rachelkramerbussel⁠ Follow Rachel on Twitter ⁠@raquelita⁠ Order Rachel's book ⁠How to Write Erotica Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: ⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow⁠⁠⁠ Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the worl

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠. For the 207th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Samantha Cole for a super nostalgic conversation about her new book, ⁠How Sex Changed the Internet and the Internet Changed Sex: An Unexpected History⁠. Samantha’s the senior editor of Motherboard, Vice’s tech outlet, and her journalism in the sex/gender/tech space definitely informed the comprehensive overview she was able to deliver. In this episode, we swap early internet stories, talk about how Samantha got started on her unique beat, and discuss the synergistic (and often antagonistic) relationship between sex and the internet, specifically in regards to online dating, revenge porn, social media, and more. For more Samantha Cole: Check out Samantha's website ⁠samleecole.c

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠fleshlight.com⁠. For the 206th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes top MILF porn star Cherie DeVille, aka "The Internet's Stepmom." In this interview, we talk about Cherie's journey from physical therapist to porn star, the unsexy realities of a porn set, how the industry and social stigma have changed over the 13 years since she first started in porn, why she doesn’t go to swingers' parties anymore, sex with "civilians," the Pornhub documentary she participated in, her thoughts on Pornhub in general, how work impacts her personal sex life, and more. For more from today's guest, Cherie DeVille: Follow Cherie on Instagram ⁠@cheriedevillexo⁠ Follow Cherie on Twitter ⁠@CherieDeVille⁠ Check out Cherie's website ⁠cheriedeville.com⁠ T

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 205th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes non-monogamy maven "Alice" for a download on Feeld dating app tips for men, as well as why she recommends trying Majestic. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3 & 4. Use code PRIVATE to get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets! Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app for open-minded individuals. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3 & 4. Use code PRIVATE to get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets! Our Spo

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 204th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Sophia Sky, Executive Director of the Pan-Eros Foundation. Today, we're diving into the sexy, subversive world of the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. From the history of the festival to what makes erotic art erotic, Sophia gives us the inside scoop on their curation process, unforgettable pieces from past festivals, and why this weekend-long celebration of desire is right up our alley. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3 & 4. Use code PRIVATE to get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets! Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 203rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes "Alice" for a non-monogamy update. "Alice" is back on the podcast to spill the tea on her decade-plus of polyamorous expertise. From her first intentional poly relationship in 2012 to swinging, kink play, and her current long-term setups with her husband "Ted" and her partner "Bob," "Alice" is dishing on it all. We’re also diving into her top tips for navigating the wild world of the Feeld app and why honest communication is the real MVP of non-monogamy. Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 202nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Allison Moon, sex educator and author of "Girl Sex 101" and "Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex." Allison helps you master the art of pleasuring vulva owners with simple yet effective hand and oral sex techniques. We explore the importance of communication, understanding anatomy, and tuning into your partner’s body language and reactions. We also dive into the topic of fisting—offering beginner-friendly tips and debunking common misconceptions. Plus, Allison shares advice on dating and sleeping around without being a (non-gendered) dick about it. Consider this your no-nonsense guide to great sex and embracing your ethical slut era—while keeping everything above

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 201st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak takes the hot seat in an interview with Star Tribune columnist Laura Yuen. Courtney opens up about her journey from identifying as child-free to seriously considering motherhood—what changed, why her parents play a pivotal role in her decision, and how the ticking clock of fertility has reshaped her thinking. This candid conversation explores career ambition, fence-sitting, the modern-day analysis paralysis that comes with having so many choices, and the evolving cultural dialogue around being child-free. For more: Read Laura's column: She’s having kids so her parents can have grandkids Read Courtney's essay: I'm 41, and I thought I'd always be child-free. I decided to have kids so my parents

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