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For the 176th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares an audio essay about aging, beauty, sexism, and why finding her first maybe-gray hair down there took her back to the Sony hack. Here's a link to Courtney's Open Secrets essay: https://opensecretsmag.substack.com/p/sony-hack-amy-pascal-gray-pubes-pubic-hair-dye And here's a link to Rachel Kramer Bussel's How to Write Erotica episode: https://www.privatepartsunknown.com/how-to-write-erotica-with-rachel-kramer-bussel/ Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November. It's called November Newsletter & Pitch Party Extravaganza and will definitely take your writing practice and career to the next level. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

For the 175th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes actress, comedian, momfluencer, and mother of three Selah Victor. Selah Victor shares her journey to motherhood, detailing her journey through infertility, IVF, and a VBA2C (vaginal birth after two C-sections) to becoming a mother of three boys. She reflects on the physical and emotional challenges she faced during pregnancy, childbirth, and the postpartum "fourth trimester." Selah discusses the unique advantages of being an older mother and how motherhood has impacted both her career and identity. She also reveals the personal growth and transformation that parenthood can bring about. For more from today's guest, Selah Victor Follow Selah on Instagram @selahvictor Check out Selah's Linktree https://linktr.ee/selahvictor Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November. It's called

For the 174th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?: Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. In this interview, Laura Boyle shares her personal journey into polyamory, which began at age 19, and how she later became a relationship coach and educator on the topic. The conversation delves into the practical aspects of polyamorous relationships, including managing finances, child-rearing, and cohabitation—the subject of Boyle's latest book. Boyle highlights key findings from her research, such as the prevalence of three-adult households in polyamory and the challenges of navigating custody battles with non-polyamorous ex-partners. The discussion also explores the growing interest in non-monogamy, the stigma surrounding polyamory, and Boyle's philosophy as a relationship anarchist. For more from today's guest, Laura Boyle: Follow Laura on Twitter/X @ready4polyamory Follow Laura on Instagram @readyforpolyamory

For the 173rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Emma Koenig, the author & editor of Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm. Emma shares how her popular Tumblr, How to Make Me Come, evolved into a powerful book that explores the diverse and often misunderstood experiences of female pleasure. We discuss how sexuality is shamed and stigmatized, the need for better sex education, and the importance of open communication in the bedroom. Emma also offers insights on how partners can engage in honest dialogues about sexual needs and preferences. (This episode also features former co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra and Dave Rankin.) For more from today's guest, Emma Koenig: Follow Emma on Twitter/X @emjuko Follow Emma on Instagram @emjuko Buy Emma's book Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November.

For the 172nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Susan Shapiro, author of The Forgiveness Tour: How to Find the Perfect Apology. In this episode, Susan Shapiro delves into her personal experience of betrayal by a close confidant who didn't apologize after the fact, sparking her journey to unravel the complexities of forgiveness and apologies, which can make or break our relationships. Susan shares insights from her research, including the four key elements of an effective apology. She also discusses when forgiveness may not be warranted, particularly in cases of repeated abuse or danger. The conversation touches on the nuanced perspectives on forgiveness across different religions and Susan's own evolution in learning to give better apologies. For more from today's guest, Susan Shapiro: Follow Susan on Twitter/X @Susanshapironet Follow Susan on Instagram @profsue123 Check out Susan's website www.susanshapiro.net Get your copy of The Forgiveness Tour Psst, Courtney has an

For the 171st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Naked News anchor Eila Adams. Eila Adams grew up in a small town before making her way to Toronto, where she became the longest-running anchor on Naked News. She’s the host of the channel’s popular workout segment, Flex Appeal, and co-host of their sex and relationship show, The Bare Naked Truth. In addition to her work with Naked News, Eila is a full-time adult content creator and was recently featured as a Hustle Honey and Best of Hustler cover star. Eila embraces nudity for both business and pleasure. In this episode, she shares her experiences with nude resorts, nude skydiving, flashing, the gendered double standard of toplessness, and more. For more from today's guest, Eila Adams: Follow Eila on Twitter/X @flexapeeler Follow Eila on Instagram @flexapeeler Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of

For the 170th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak celebrates her fourth anniversary on OnlyFans with a reflection on what inspired her to start her Coco Peep Show account, what she's learned from her time on the platform (regarding age, boundaries, body image, and more), her favorite and least favorite aspects (including photo shoots, dick reviews, and piracy), plus an accounting of how much money she's made. For links related to this episode: Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow If YOU want to become an 0nIyFan$ creator, sign up for an account using Courtney's referral link bit.ly/43NKT2i Here’s a playlist of our entire “Comedians of OnlyFans” series. Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to cour

For the 169th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes podcaster, musician, and writer Ashley Hamer for a candid discussion on motherhood. This is the first episode in an ongoing series as Courtney contemplates having a kid. For many years, Ashley Hamer was steadfast in her childfree vision for her future, but now she's a soon-to-be mother of two. In this episode, Ashley opens up about her change of heart and shares her personal experiences with pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum, and early parenthood. We dive into the physical and emotional shifts she experienced along the way, the importance of preparation and research, and the influence becoming a parent has had on her creative endeavors. Tune in for an insightful conversation that explores the highs and lows of one woman's life-changing transformation to "Mom." For more from today's guest, Ashley Hamer: Follow Ashley on Twitter/X @smashleyhamer Follow Ashley on Instagram @smashleyhamer Check out Ashley's podcast, Taboo Science

For the 168th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dominic Ford, the CEO of JustFor.Fans. Over his 17-year career, Dominic has been a trailblazer in the porn industry, starting with a 3D porn studio and now leading one of the most popular fan platforms. And as a computer scientist, he programmed all of JustFor.Fans himself. He's also been on-camera talent and is a dedicated anti-piracy crusader. He's done it all, so it's no surprise he won Businessman of the Year at the 2022 XBIZ Exec Awards and was honored with the 2024 Grabby Awards Lifetime Achievement Award. In this episode, Dominic shares his journey in porn, the evolution of the industry, and the empowering impact of fan platforms like JustFor.Fans. We also discuss the crucial topic of anti-piracy, the stigma around sex work, and Dominic's tips for enjoying the gay summer meccas of Provincetown and Fire Island.  For more from today's guest, Dominic Ford: Follow Dominic on Twitter/X @dominicford Follow JustFor.Fans on Instagr

For the 167th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.  In October 2022, Courtney wrote all about it for Cosmo and then included it as an audio essay in episode 103 with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. In the midst of a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy! Here are links to the other episodes mentioned: A Sex Work, LGBTQ Rights & Gender Equality-Centric Tour of Tokyo, Japan—Culminating in a Mind-Blowing Happy Ending Massage!: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/cdbf91e6660403c9f0275f144272734c A Subcultures Researcher & a Sex Worker Walk into a Tokyo Bar: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/899f6f2d01190869a4a89692debf033a Gay & Married in the U.S., But Not Quite Yet in Japan: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/59e1309bf6cffa56c39ac5b379bc806f Japanese Girl Power: https://pod.link/1154304419

For the 166th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes mature OnlyFans model Rae Richmond, aka “the MILF next door,” aka “the Midlife MILF.” In today’s episode, we discuss how Rae went from corporate life to becoming a self-made porn star, including her previous marriages, getting sober, and meeting a younger man who encouraged her to start an OnlyFans account at age 56. Like many sex workers and adult entertainers, this woman is the ultimate entrepreneur, and she even turned the strategies and systems she developed to consistently produce and promote content into an adult creator coaching business. Rae also shares her experience of being “outed” in her small hometown, the reactions from friends and family, and how she has navigated that. Additionally, Rae talks about the cosmetic procedures she has undergone, including a facelift and Brazilian butt lift, and her current quest to write a memoir about her life experiences. For more from today's guest, Rae Richmond: Follow Rae on Instagra

For the 165th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession. In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood. For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon: Follow Cameron on Instagram @cameron_dezen_hammon Buy Cameron's book This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession Check out Cameron's website camerondezenhammon.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneyko

For the 164th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Sward, author of Strip: A Memoir. Hannah opens up about her unconventional childhood, including being abandoned by her mother, living with her poet father, experiencing sexual abuse as a child, and (of course) a stint on a commune. She also shares her entry into sex work, first as a call girl and then as a stripper, working alongside her sister, why she started using crystal meth, and how she finally got sober after losing a decade to addiction. We discuss Hannah's current perspective on the changing cultural attitudes towards sex work, how her family reacted to the book’s contents, and how writing the memoir was healing in that it coincided with her recovery yet also came with the emotional challenges of revisiting past traumas. For more from today's guest, Hannah Sward: Follow Hannah on Instagram @hannahswardauthor Buy Hannah's book Strip: A Memoir Check out Hannah's website hannahsward.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIy

For the 163rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alex Alberto, author of Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. For the final installment of this year's Pride programming, this interview covers Alex's exploration of polyamory, how their identities as a genderqueer and pansexual person gave them a unique angle in writing about non-monogamy, the importance of queer narratives, the process of writing and publishing the book, their journey toward asexuality, and polyamory as a life philosophy.  For more from today's guest, Alex Alberto: Follow Alex on Instagram @thatalexalberto Buy Alex's book Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home Sign up for Alex's Substack, Entwined Mag https://entwinedmag.substack.com/welcome Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitel

For the 162nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Eagle LA co-owner Charlie Matula and his husband, Hunter Fox. Courtney interviewed Charlie and Hunter for a KCRW radio story entitled "Happily leather after at The Eagle in Silver Lake", which originally aired in June 2019 for Pride. The Eagle LA is a leather/Levi's bar in the Silver Lake neighborhood of Los Angeles, California. In this interview, we delve into the rich history of this beloved establishment and its importance to the gay community (and neighborhood at large), how Charlie and Hunter met and fell in love, Silver Lake's pivotal role in LGBT history, and the evolving landscape of gay acceptance across the United States throughout their lifetimes. Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice t

For the 161st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey for the second episode in our special month of Pride programming. Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker, and podcast host based in London. With more than 30 years of helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specializes in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and kink/BDSM knowledgable and helps traumatized people to move from victim to survivor and back into life. In today’s episode, we discuss Dr. Bisbey’s long career as a clinical psychologist for people living alternative lives, the common issues she sees in her practice, her unique identity and relationship status as a queer, consensually non-monogamous leather woman in a full-time authority transfer-based relationship with her husband, and some practical advice for anyone interested in exploring their fantasies or trying non-monog

For the 160th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cody Daigle-Orians, the influencer behind Ace Dad Advice and author of I Am Ace, to discuss the underrepresentation of asexuality in popular culture. It's Pride Month, and there's lots of rightful celebration for the LGBTIA community, but rarely mention of the acronym's A. In fact, asexuality is so underrepresented in culture that it can be hard to self-identify. Cody Daigle-Orians didn't realize they were asexual until age 42 after initially coming out as gay. It was reading about asexuality on Tumblr that led to their ah-ha moment. In this episode, Cody explains the nuances of asexuality and attraction, including the differences between sexual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction, as well as the glossary of related ace terms. Cody also debunks some common misconceptions, shares how their asexuality journey led them to rethink their gender identity, how polyamory fits into their equation, and provides tips for navigating mixed identi

For the 159th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes top MILF porn star Cherie DeVille, aka "The Internet's Stepmom." In this interview, we talk about Cherie's journey from physical therapist to porn star, the unsexy realities of a porn set, how the industry and social stigma have changed over the 13 years since she first started in porn, why she doesn’t go to swingers' parties anymore, sex with "civilians," the Pornhub documentary she participated in, her thoughts on Pornhub in general, how work impacts her personal sex life, and more. For more from today's guest, Cherie DeVille: Follow Cherie on Instagram @cheriedevillexo Follow Cherie on Twitter @CherieDeVille Check out Cherie's website cheriedeville.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing pract

For the 158th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak invites listeners inside her Elvis-officiated wedding at The Little White Chapel and gives her guide to wedding planning in Las Vegas, the self-proclaimed wedding capital of the world. That’s right, I got married last month in Vegas! Now, I’m not the kind of girl who ever dreamed of her wedding day — I just wanted it to be fun and easy — but unexpectedly, it was one of the best days of my life. My husband even called it “magical.” In this episode, I reminisce with my husband a few days after the ceremony, you’re going to hear some audio from the wedding ceremony and reception speeches, and then I’m going to give you my wedding planning breakdown, which you are free to steal. Our photographer was Keith Kaplan; check out his website at keithkaplanphotographylasvegas.net. For a full list of wedding vendors, subscribe to privatepartsunknown.substack.com — I'll be sending that out in an upcoming issue. Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a ho

For the 157th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Margo Steines, author of Brutalities: A Love Story. In this interview, we discuss Margo's experience as a dominatrix, sex work then vs. now, the toxic societal pressures on women's bodies in the 90s and how that resulted in eating disorders for both of us, her stint as a high-rise welder, advice she would give her former self about an abusive relationship, what it was like to be pregnant during the pandemic, how she feels about motherhood, and more. Here's the description of Brutalities: Quarantined in a southwestern desert city in the midst of her high-risk pregnancy, Margo Steines felt her life narrow around her growing body, compelling her to reckon with the violence entangled in its history. She was a professional dominatrix in New York City, a homestead farmer in a brutal relationship, a welder on a high-rise building crew, and a mixed martial arts enthusiast; each of her many lives brought a new perspective on how power and mas