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Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 218th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Sward, author of ⁠Strip: A Memoir⁠. Hannah opens up about her unconventional childhood, including being abandoned by her mother, living with her poet father, experiencing sexual abuse as a child, and (of course) a stint on a commune. She also shares her entry into sex work, first as a call girl and then as a stripper, working alongside her sister, why she started using crystal meth, and how she finally got sober after losing a decade to addiction. We discuss Hannah's current perspective on the changing cultural attitudes towards sex work, how her family reacted to the book’s contents, and how writing the memoir was healing in that it coincided with her rec

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Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 216th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of ⁠⁠This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession⁠⁠. In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood. For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon: Follow Cameron on Instagram ⁠⁠@cameron_dezen_hammon⁠⁠ Follow Cameron in TikTok @thevaginaauntie Buy Cameron's book ⁠⁠This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession⁠⁠ Check out Cameron's website ⁠⁠camerondezenhammon.com⁠⁠ Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, whi

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Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 213th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes fertility specialist, author, and Harvard scholar Gabriela Rosa for a primer on getting pregnant when nothing else works. In this episode, Gabriela shares both her personal and professional journeys that led her to help over 140,000 people across 111 countries achieve their dreams of parenthood, with a remarkable 78.8% success rate and nearly half conceiving naturally. We discuss the importance of identifying the root cause of fertility issues, the role of personalized treatment plans, and the long-game power of diet, exercise, and lifestyle in reproductive health. Gabriela also shares her signature advice: act pregnant now to get pregnant later. Whether you want a baby

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 212th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and teacher Jacqueline LeKachman for a candid Gen Z dispatch on sex, consent, and dating culture. In this episode, Jacqueline shares her experience of losing her virginity at 22—a moment that left her feeling disconnected from her body and later revealed itself as an instance of sexual compliance: saying yes to sex without truly wanting it. We explore how she processed the experience, what it taught her about desire and boundaries, her evolving views on relationship models, and where she’s at on the sex and dating front today. Jacqueline gives us a fascinating glimpse into the Gen Z dating scene. For more from today's guest, Jacqueline LeKachman: Read Jacquel

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sorry for the slight publishing delay, Privates! I’ve been traveling and got my days mixed up. Thanks so much for your patience—I appreciate you! For the 211th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Nancy Reddy, author of The Good Mother Myth. In this episode, Nancy shares her personal journey into motherhood, including the emotional challenges of postpartum life and the complicated tension between ambition and societal expectations. We dig into the historical roots of modern motherhood, spotlighting mid-century male psychologists whose work on attachment theory shaped how we think about parenting—often at the expense of the women in their own lives. It’s a smart, illuminating, and deeply relatable conversation about care

Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fleshlight.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For the 210th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cris Mazza, author of the new memoir, The Decade of Letting Things Go. The book traces Cris’s journey through the aftermath of menopause and her search for self-acceptance amid a growing list of losses. In this episode, we discuss her lifelong experiences with anorgasmia, sexual dysfunction, and gender dysphoria—and how these shaped her relationships, identity, and creative work. It’s a fascinating and refreshingly honest conversation about intimacy, identity, and what it means to let go of expectations. For more from today's guest, Cris Mazza: Check out Cris's website cris-mazza.com Order Rachel's book ⁠⁠The Decade of Letting Things Go Psst, Courtney has an 0nIy

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