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For the 183rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Mistress Colette Pervette, a professional Dominatrix of 20 years. As an Educatrix, Colette teaches the art and practice of FemDom and BDSM to women and couples. She holds a Ph.D. in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, she dispels misconceptions about kink, sex work, and alternative sexuality. She guides women and femmes to find and cultivate their personal power by learning how to play with it in the bedroom, dungeon, and beyond. Colette teaches an online Dominatrix training course called MistressClass, where she takes you on an immersive journey where she shows you every step it takes to become a Dominatrix and come into your full power. She has guided and trained hundreds of women and femmes to become the Dominatrix of their vision. In this episode, we discuss how she got started as a pro domme at The Gates dungeon in the San Francisco Bay

For the 182nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jennifer Case, author of We Are Animals: On the Nature and Politics of Motherhood.  Jennifer explains how human maternal behavior makes more sense when viewed through the lens of evolutionary biology and how these biological instincts often clash with modern societal expectations of motherhood, creating tensions that manifest in issues like maternal mental health, isolation, and lack of support. We discuss Jennifer's personal experiences with pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood, including the challenges she faced with her second unintended pregnancy and her husband's opposition to abortion. She also opens up about her challenges in balancing academic and career ambitions with the demands of motherhood, how she navigates the complexities of sharing childcare responsibilities equitably with her husband, and how she reconciles her feminist ideals with the realities of motherhood. For more from today's guest, Jennifer Case: Buy Jennif

For the 181st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes feminist writer and sexologist Suzannah Weiss, author of the new book Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. In this episode, Suzannah defines objectification and the ways it impacts women in media, language, and everyday life. We cover topics like masturbation, eating disorders, clothing-optional resorts, and sex parties. Suzannah shares her journey to reclaiming her sexual agency and encourages women to center themselves and their own desires. For more from today's guest, Suzannah Weiss: Buy Suzannah's book Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject Follow Suzannah on Instagram @weisssuzannah Follow Suzannah on Twitter/X @suzannahweiss Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow LAST CALL: Courtney is teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November. It's called November Newsletter & Pitch Party Extravaganza and will definitely take your w

For the 180th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author, actress, and adult film star Maitland Ward, who is best known for her role as Rachel on the 1990s TV show Boy Meets World. Maitland Ward shares her journey from Long Beach native to Hollywood up-and-comer and, eventually, adult entertainment actress, including the challenges of navigating the entertainment industry's pre-MeToo misogyny, the behind-the-scenes dynamics of Boy Meets World, and the pressures of conforming to Disney's strict (double) standards. Maitland opens up about how she reclaimed her identity and sexuality through writing and adult content, ultimately finding empowerment in her career transition, which allowed her to embrace her bisexuality and take full control of her image and livelihood.  For more from today's guest, Maitland Ward: Buy Maitland's book (paperback) My Escape from Hollywood: Unapologetic, Unfiltered, and Unashamed Buy Maitland's book (hardcover) Rated X: How Porn Liberated Me from Hollywo

For the 179th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes adult film performer and activist Siri Dahl. In this episode, we delve into the impact of conservative anti-porn legislation, including Project 2025 and the Kids Online Safety Act, on the adult entertainment industry and sex workers. Siri offers insight into how the industry has evolved over the past decade, from the rise of platforms like OnlyFans to the increasing censorship and regulation of online adult content through age verification laws. She explains how these laws, under the guise of protecting children, are actually a backdoor attempt to ban pornography and criminalize sex work. Siri also shares her thoughts on the cultural stigma surrounding sex work, the challenges sex workers face in finding "civilian" employment, and the ongoing fight against piracy and content theft. Tune into the Corn Telethon, a 12-hour livestream to raise awareness about Project 2025, as well as funds for sex worker organizations and independent jou

For the 178th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Treena Orchard, anthropologist and author of Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture and the Darker Side of Dating Apps. In this episode, anthropologist Treena Orchard shares her experiences with online dating after turning 45 and offers insights into the complexities of modern "swipe culture." She discusses the unexpected interest from younger men, the vulnerability men face in shifting gender dynamics, the dark side of dating app gamification, and the upsides of tech involvement in our love lives. Orchard critiques popular platforms like the "feminist" dating app Bumble and highlights how dating apps commodify romance. Despite the challenges, she found meaningful connections and argues that in-person, activity-based dating may be the future of romance. For more from today's guest, Treena Orchard: Follow Treena on Instagram @treenaorchard Check out Treena's website treenaorchard.com Buy Treena's book Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture a

For the 177th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Tami Rose, the owner of Romantic Adventures, a sex toy store in Jackson, Mississippi. Tami discusses her journey from being a chaplain's assistant in the Navy to becoming a sex toy store owner and how she has navigated running a sex-related business in a conservative state. She talks about the importance of creating a welcoming and educational environment for her customers and how she has used cheeky radio ads to promote her store. We also discuss the impact of recent abortion bans in many US states, including Mississippi, and Tami gives us some tips for sex toy shopping. For more from today's guest, Tami Rose: Follow Tami on Instagram @tantrictami Check out Romantic Adventures online romanticadventures.shop Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November. It's called November News

For the 176th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares an audio essay about aging, beauty, sexism, and why finding her first maybe-gray hair down there took her back to the Sony hack. Here's a link to Courtney's Open Secrets essay: https://opensecretsmag.substack.com/p/sony-hack-amy-pascal-gray-pubes-pubic-hair-dye And here's a link to Rachel Kramer Bussel's How to Write Erotica episode: https://www.privatepartsunknown.com/how-to-write-erotica-with-rachel-kramer-bussel/ Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November. It's called November Newsletter & Pitch Party Extravaganza and will definitely take your writing practice and career to the next level. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

For the 175th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes actress, comedian, momfluencer, and mother of three Selah Victor. Selah Victor shares her journey to motherhood, detailing her journey through infertility, IVF, and a VBA2C (vaginal birth after two C-sections) to becoming a mother of three boys. She reflects on the physical and emotional challenges she faced during pregnancy, childbirth, and the postpartum "fourth trimester." Selah discusses the unique advantages of being an older mother and how motherhood has impacted both her career and identity. She also reveals the personal growth and transformation that parenthood can bring about. For more from today's guest, Selah Victor: Follow Selah on Instagram @selahvictor Check out Selah's Linktree https://linktr.ee/selahvictor Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November. It's called

For the 174th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?: Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. In this interview, Laura Boyle shares her personal journey into polyamory, which began at age 19, and how she later became a relationship coach and educator on the topic. The conversation delves into the practical aspects of polyamorous relationships, including managing finances, child-rearing, and cohabitation—the subject of Boyle's latest book. Boyle highlights key findings from her research, such as the prevalence of three-adult households in polyamory and the challenges of navigating custody battles with non-polyamorous ex-partners. The discussion also explores the growing interest in non-monogamy, the stigma surrounding polyamory, and Boyle's philosophy as a relationship anarchist. For more from today's guest, Laura Boyle: Follow Laura on Twitter/X @ready4polyamory Follow Laura on Instagram @readyforpolyamory

For the 173rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Emma Koenig, the author & editor of Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm. Emma shares how her popular Tumblr, How to Make Me Come, evolved into a powerful book that explores the diverse and often misunderstood experiences of female pleasure. We discuss how sexuality is shamed and stigmatized, the need for better sex education, and the importance of open communication in the bedroom. Emma also offers insights on how partners can engage in honest dialogues about sexual needs and preferences. (This episode also features former co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra and Dave Rankin.) For more from today's guest, Emma Koenig: Follow Emma on Twitter/X @emjuko Follow Emma on Instagram @emjuko Buy Emma's book Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this November.

For the 172nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Susan Shapiro, author of The Forgiveness Tour: How to Find the Perfect Apology. In this episode, Susan Shapiro delves into her personal experience of betrayal by a close confidant who didn't apologize after the fact, sparking her journey to unravel the complexities of forgiveness and apologies, which can make or break our relationships. Susan shares insights from her research, including the four key elements of an effective apology. She also discusses when forgiveness may not be warranted, particularly in cases of repeated abuse or danger. The conversation touches on the nuanced perspectives on forgiveness across different religions and Susan's own evolution in learning to give better apologies. For more from today's guest, Susan Shapiro: Follow Susan on Twitter/X @Susanshapironet Follow Susan on Instagram @profsue123 Check out Susan's website www.susanshapiro.net Get your copy of The Forgiveness Tour Psst, Courtney has an

For the 171st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Naked News anchor Eila Adams. Eila Adams grew up in a small town before making her way to Toronto, where she became the longest-running anchor on Naked News. She’s the host of the channel’s popular workout segment, Flex Appeal, and co-host of their sex and relationship show, The Bare Naked Truth. In addition to her work with Naked News, Eila is a full-time adult content creator and was recently featured as a Hustle Honey and Best of Hustler cover star. Eila embraces nudity for both business and pleasure. In this episode, she shares her experiences with nude resorts, nude skydiving, flashing, the gendered double standard of toplessness, and more. For more from today's guest, Eila Adams: Follow Eila on Twitter/X @flexapeeler Follow Eila on Instagram @flexapeeler Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of

For the 170th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak celebrates her fourth anniversary on OnlyFans with a reflection on what inspired her to start her Coco Peep Show account, what she's learned from her time on the platform (regarding age, boundaries, body image, and more), her favorite and least favorite aspects (including photo shoots, dick reviews, and piracy), plus an accounting of how much money she's made. For links related to this episode: Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow If YOU want to become an 0nIyFan$ creator, sign up for an account using Courtney's referral link bit.ly/43NKT2i Here’s a playlist of our entire “Comedians of OnlyFans” series. Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to cour

For the 169th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes podcaster, musician, and writer Ashley Hamer for a candid discussion on motherhood. This is the first episode in an ongoing series as Courtney contemplates having a kid. For many years, Ashley Hamer was steadfast in her childfree vision for her future, but now she's a soon-to-be mother of two. In this episode, Ashley opens up about her change of heart and shares her personal experiences with pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum, and early parenthood. We dive into the physical and emotional shifts she experienced along the way, the importance of preparation and research, and the influence becoming a parent has had on her creative endeavors. Tune in for an insightful conversation that explores the highs and lows of one woman's life-changing transformation to "Mom." For more from today's guest, Ashley Hamer: Follow Ashley on Twitter/X @smashleyhamer Follow Ashley on Instagram @smashleyhamer Check out Ashley's podcast, Taboo Science

For the 168th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dominic Ford, the CEO of JustFor.Fans. Over his 17-year career, Dominic has been a trailblazer in the porn industry, starting with a 3D porn studio and now leading one of the most popular fan platforms. And as a computer scientist, he programmed all of JustFor.Fans himself. He's also been on-camera talent and is a dedicated anti-piracy crusader. He's done it all, so it's no surprise he won Businessman of the Year at the 2022 XBIZ Exec Awards and was honored with the 2024 Grabby Awards Lifetime Achievement Award. In this episode, Dominic shares his journey in porn, the evolution of the industry, and the empowering impact of fan platforms like JustFor.Fans. We also discuss the crucial topic of anti-piracy, the stigma around sex work, and Dominic's tips for enjoying the gay summer meccas of Provincetown and Fire Island.  For more from today's guest, Dominic Ford: Follow Dominic on Twitter/X @dominicford Follow JustFor.Fans on Instagr

For the 167th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.  In October 2022, Courtney wrote all about it for Cosmo and then included it as an audio essay in episode 103 with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. In the midst of a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy! Here are links to the other episodes mentioned: A Sex Work, LGBTQ Rights & Gender Equality-Centric Tour of Tokyo, Japan—Culminating in a Mind-Blowing Happy Ending Massage!: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/cdbf91e6660403c9f0275f144272734c A Subcultures Researcher & a Sex Worker Walk into a Tokyo Bar: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/899f6f2d01190869a4a89692debf033a Gay & Married in the U.S., But Not Quite Yet in Japan: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/59e1309bf6cffa56c39ac5b379bc806f Japanese Girl Power: https://pod.link/1154304419

For the 166th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes mature OnlyFans model Rae Richmond, aka “the MILF next door,” aka “the Midlife MILF.” In today’s episode, we discuss how Rae went from corporate life to becoming a self-made porn star, including her previous marriages, getting sober, and meeting a younger man who encouraged her to start an OnlyFans account at age 56. Like many sex workers and adult entertainers, this woman is the ultimate entrepreneur, and she even turned the strategies and systems she developed to consistently produce and promote content into an adult creator coaching business. Rae also shares her experience of being “outed” in her small hometown, the reactions from friends and family, and how she has navigated that. Additionally, Rae talks about the cosmetic procedures she has undergone, including a facelift and Brazilian butt lift, and her current quest to write a memoir about her life experiences. For more from today's guest, Rae Richmond: Follow Rae on Instagra

For the 165th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession. In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood. For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon: Follow Cameron on Instagram @cameron_dezen_hammon Buy Cameron's book This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession Check out Cameron's website camerondezenhammon.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneyko

For the 164th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Sward, author of Strip: A Memoir. Hannah opens up about her unconventional childhood, including being abandoned by her mother, living with her poet father, experiencing sexual abuse as a child, and (of course) a stint on a commune. She also shares her entry into sex work, first as a call girl and then as a stripper, working alongside her sister, why she started using crystal meth, and how she finally got sober after losing a decade to addiction. We discuss Hannah's current perspective on the changing cultural attitudes towards sex work, how her family reacted to the book’s contents, and how writing the memoir was healing in that it coincided with her recovery yet also came with the emotional challenges of revisiting past traumas. For more from today's guest, Hannah Sward: Follow Hannah on Instagram @hannahswardauthor Buy Hannah's book Strip: A Memoir Check out Hannah's website hannahsward.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIy