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For the 168th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dominic Ford, the CEO of JustFor.Fans. Over his 17-year career, Dominic has been a trailblazer in the porn industry, starting with a 3D porn studio and now leading one of the most popular fan platforms. And as a computer scientist, he programmed all of JustFor.Fans himself. He's also been on-camera talent and is a dedicated anti-piracy crusader. He's done it all, so it's no surprise he won Businessman of the Year at the 2022 XBIZ Exec Awards and was honored with the 2024 Grabby Awards Lifetime Achievement Award. In this episode, Dominic shares his journey in porn, the evolution of the industry, and the empowering impact of fan platforms like JustFor.Fans. We also discuss the crucial topic of anti-piracy, the stigma around sex work, and Dominic's tips for enjoying the gay summer meccas of Provincetown and Fire Island.  For more from today's guest, Dominic Ford: Follow Dominic on Twitter/X @dominicford Follow JustFor.Fans on Instagr

For the 167th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.  In October 2022, Courtney wrote all about it for Cosmo and then included it as an audio essay in episode 103 with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. In the midst of a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy! Here are links to the other episodes mentioned: A Sex Work, LGBTQ Rights & Gender Equality-Centric Tour of Tokyo, Japan—Culminating in a Mind-Blowing Happy Ending Massage!: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/cdbf91e6660403c9f0275f144272734c A Subcultures Researcher & a Sex Worker Walk into a Tokyo Bar: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/899f6f2d01190869a4a89692debf033a Gay & Married in the U.S., But Not Quite Yet in Japan: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/59e1309bf6cffa56c39ac5b379bc806f Japanese Girl Power: https://pod.link/1154304419

For the 166th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes mature OnlyFans model Rae Richmond, aka “the MILF next door,” aka “the Midlife MILF.” In today’s episode, we discuss how Rae went from corporate life to becoming a self-made porn star, including her previous marriages, getting sober, and meeting a younger man who encouraged her to start an OnlyFans account at age 56. Like many sex workers and adult entertainers, this woman is the ultimate entrepreneur, and she even turned the strategies and systems she developed to consistently produce and promote content into an adult creator coaching business. Rae also shares her experience of being “outed” in her small hometown, the reactions from friends and family, and how she has navigated that. Additionally, Rae talks about the cosmetic procedures she has undergone, including a facelift and Brazilian butt lift, and her current quest to write a memoir about her life experiences. For more from today's guest, Rae Richmond: Follow Rae on Instagra

For the 165th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession. In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood. For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon: Follow Cameron on Instagram @cameron_dezen_hammon Buy Cameron's book This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession Check out Cameron's website camerondezenhammon.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this September. It's called Back to School Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneyko

For the 164th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Sward, author of Strip: A Memoir. Hannah opens up about her unconventional childhood, including being abandoned by her mother, living with her poet father, experiencing sexual abuse as a child, and (of course) a stint on a commune. She also shares her entry into sex work, first as a call girl and then as a stripper, working alongside her sister, why she started using crystal meth, and how she finally got sober after losing a decade to addiction. We discuss Hannah's current perspective on the changing cultural attitudes towards sex work, how her family reacted to the book’s contents, and how writing the memoir was healing in that it coincided with her recovery yet also came with the emotional challenges of revisiting past traumas. For more from today's guest, Hannah Sward: Follow Hannah on Instagram @hannahswardauthor Buy Hannah's book Strip: A Memoir Check out Hannah's website hannahsward.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIy

For the 163rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alex Alberto, author of Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. For the final installment of this year's Pride programming, this interview covers Alex's exploration of polyamory, how their identities as a genderqueer and pansexual person gave them a unique angle in writing about non-monogamy, the importance of queer narratives, the process of writing and publishing the book, their journey toward asexuality, and polyamory as a life philosophy.  For more from today's guest, Alex Alberto: Follow Alex on Instagram @thatalexalberto Buy Alex's book Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home Sign up for Alex's Substack, Entwined Mag https://entwinedmag.substack.com/welcome Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitel

For the 162nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Eagle LA co-owner Charlie Matula and his husband, Hunter Fox. Courtney interviewed Charlie and Hunter for a KCRW radio story entitled "Happily leather after at The Eagle in Silver Lake", which originally aired in June 2019 for Pride. The Eagle LA is a leather/Levi's bar in the Silver Lake neighborhood of Los Angeles, California. In this interview, we delve into the rich history of this beloved establishment and its importance to the gay community (and neighborhood at large), how Charlie and Hunter met and fell in love, Silver Lake's pivotal role in LGBT history, and the evolving landscape of gay acceptance across the United States throughout their lifetimes. Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice t

For the 161st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey for the second episode in our special month of Pride programming. Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker, and podcast host based in London. With more than 30 years of helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specializes in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and kink/BDSM knowledgable and helps traumatized people to move from victim to survivor and back into life. In today’s episode, we discuss Dr. Bisbey’s long career as a clinical psychologist for people living alternative lives, the common issues she sees in her practice, her unique identity and relationship status as a queer, consensually non-monogamous leather woman in a full-time authority transfer-based relationship with her husband, and some practical advice for anyone interested in exploring their fantasies or trying non-monog

For the 160th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cody Daigle-Orians, the influencer behind Ace Dad Advice and author of I Am Ace, to discuss the underrepresentation of asexuality in popular culture. It's Pride Month, and there's lots of rightful celebration for the LGBTIA community, but rarely mention of the acronym's A. In fact, asexuality is so underrepresented in culture that it can be hard to self-identify. Cody Daigle-Orians didn't realize they were asexual until age 42 after initially coming out as gay. It was reading about asexuality on Tumblr that led to their ah-ha moment. In this episode, Cody explains the nuances of asexuality and attraction, including the differences between sexual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction, as well as the glossary of related ace terms. Cody also debunks some common misconceptions, shares how their asexuality journey led them to rethink their gender identity, how polyamory fits into their equation, and provides tips for navigating mixed identi

For the 159th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes top MILF porn star Cherie DeVille, aka "The Internet's Stepmom." In this interview, we talk about Cherie's journey from physical therapist to porn star, the unsexy realities of a porn set, how the industry and social stigma have changed over the 13 years since she first started in porn, why she doesn’t go to swingers' parties anymore, sex with "civilians," the Pornhub documentary she participated in, her thoughts on Pornhub in general, how work impacts her personal sex life, and more. For more from today's guest, Cherie DeVille: Follow Cherie on Instagram @cheriedevillexo Follow Cherie on Twitter @CherieDeVille Check out Cherie's website cheriedeville.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Courtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing pract

For the 158th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak invites listeners inside her Elvis-officiated wedding at The Little White Chapel and gives her guide to wedding planning in Las Vegas, the self-proclaimed wedding capital of the world. That’s right, I got married last month in Vegas! Now, I’m not the kind of girl who ever dreamed of her wedding day — I just wanted it to be fun and easy — but unexpectedly, it was one of the best days of my life. My husband even called it “magical.” In this episode, I reminisce with my husband a few days after the ceremony, you’re going to hear some audio from the wedding ceremony and reception speeches, and then I’m going to give you my wedding planning breakdown, which you are free to steal. Our photographer was Keith Kaplan; check out his website at keithkaplanphotographylasvegas.net. For a full list of wedding vendors, subscribe to privatepartsunknown.substack.com — I'll be sending that out in an upcoming issue. Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a ho

For the 157th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Margo Steines, author of Brutalities: A Love Story. In this interview, we discuss Margo's experience as a dominatrix, sex work then vs. now, the toxic societal pressures on women's bodies in the 90s and how that resulted in eating disorders for both of us, her stint as a high-rise welder, advice she would give her former self about an abusive relationship, what it was like to be pregnant during the pandemic, how she feels about motherhood, and more. Here's the description of Brutalities: Quarantined in a southwestern desert city in the midst of her high-risk pregnancy, Margo Steines felt her life narrow around her growing body, compelling her to reckon with the violence entangled in its history. She was a professional dominatrix in New York City, a homestead farmer in a brutal relationship, a welder on a high-rise building crew, and a mixed martial arts enthusiast; each of her many lives brought a new perspective on how power and mas

For the 156th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Tawny Lara, sober sexpert and author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, for a conversation that might have you rethinking your relationship with alcohol. We discuss Tawny's sobriety journey and why she decided to document it, sex with alcohol vs. sex without alcohol, the role liquid courage plays in our romantic lives, ideas for non-awkward sober dates, tips for dating someone who doesn't drink, what to do if you're reevaluating your relationship with booze, and more. For more from today's guest, Tawny Lara: Subscribe to Tawny's Substack, Beyond Liquid Courage https://tawnylara.substack.com/welcome Follow Tawny on Instagram @tawnymlara Buy Tawny's book Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze Check out Tawny's new botanical beverage (parentheses) https://www.drinkparentheses.com/ Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the

For the 155th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Gabrielle Stone, author of Eat, Pray, #FML and host of FML Talk. If you've recently been dumped or are struggling to get over a past relationship, this episode is for you! This is the ultimate breakup recovery guide to help you not just survive but thrive after your breakup. No matter how desperate you feel or how embarrassing things have gotten with your ex, you CAN heal your heartbreak, and we'll tell you how. Gabrielle shares her incredible story with not one but two happy endings. We also discussed whether you should implement the no-contact rule, toxic relationships, love-bombing, the benefits of journaling through the pain, "the thought onion," why the length of your relationship doesn't always correspond to the level of post-breakup grief, and more. For more from today's guest, Gabrielle Stone: Check out Gabrielle's website eatprayfml.com Follow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellestone Buy Gabrielle's books Eat, Pray, #FML

For the 154th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Ian Kerner for a long-term relationship sex rut reboot. Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First and the recently released So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He also coined the term "cliteracy" and is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not f*cking like they wish they were.  For more Ian Kerner: Order Ian's book So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex Follow Ian on Twitter @IanKerner Check out Ian's website iankerner.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for

For the 153rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Joey Tuccio, president and CEO of Roadmap Writers, for the final episode in our three-part series on pet loss. Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here, and part two with Beth Bigler, listen here.) Joey Tuccio is heavily involved with animal rescue efforts, including saving abused dogs from Skid Row. Of course, we talk about pet loss and navigating the grief, but we also share how to get involved and make dogs' lives better, even if you can't take a dog into your home at the moment. For more Joey Tuccio: Follow Joey on Instagram @joey.tuccio Follow Joey on Twitter @joey_tuccio Check out the Roadmap Writers website roadmapwriters.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan

For the 152nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Beth Bigler, pet loss grief counselor and founder of Honoring Our Animals, for part two in a three-part series on pet loss. Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here.) One of the things that really helped me shortly after Georgia passed away was discovering an Instagram account, @honoringouranimals. I got so much reassurance and validation just from following the account, so I knew I wanted to interview its creator, Beth Bigler, for this series on pet loss. And she did not disappoint. Beth is a double-certified pet loss grief counselor, certified end-of-life animal companion doula, and pet chaplain. She works with individuals and families before, during, and after the los

For the 151st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cherie Doyen of Quantum Therapeutix for part one in a three-part series on pet loss. Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. Our first guest is Cherie Doyen, one of my best friend’s mom and a professional healer. In this conversation, Cherie explains a bit about her work healing complex trauma. We also talk about grieving our beloved dogs — my Georgia and her Nina — our dogs as protectors and the best friends we could ever have, pets mourning other pets, being visited by your dog's spirit, how hard euthanasia is for pet owners, and the fraught experience of getting another pet (or "calling in your next guide," as Cherie says.) For more Cherie Doyen: Follow Cherie on Instagram @cheriedoyen Buy Cherie's book The Chronicles

For the 150th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, to discuss the company's 2024 trend forecast. TL;DR: Non-monogamy is on the rise, but it's playing out differently from generation to generation. Tune in to learn how Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, and Boomers are approaching polyamory, open relationships, and affairs with their unique generational flare. And how gender equality factors into the changes. Plus, can an affair ever save a marriage? Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Lume is a whole-body deodorant for

For the 149th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Communications Director, Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity for the final installation in our three-part series on why women cheat. For part one, we heard from an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" to kick off the series. Part two was a conversation with Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable. (This series also featured former co-host Sofiya Alexandra.) You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one! Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code