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If your relationship is breaking right now and you don't know how to move through it, this one is for you.Garrain Asé came on the show two days after the most significant thing that has happened to him in years.A four-month separation. Income cut in half. Businesses going down. A name he changed because it belonged to a slave owner. And underneath all of it, seven years of small lies he told himself, and a sadness he had been carrying since he was four years old and never once touched.What you'll hear:Why the rupture was what created access to everything he'd never facedThe sadness underneath the shame, and how his wife found it before he couldWhat seven years of lying to yourself does to your body and your partnershipWhy truth has to come first, because it's what creates the opening to rebuildNaming your parts: Shamason, Footloose, Mr. Fantasy, and why every one has a light side Holding on too long and letting go too fast, and how both came from the same childhood Why he walked away from the

If you've ever caught yourself thinking if they'd just do it this way, their life would be easier — this one is for you.Dr. Steven Young traces that impulse all the way down. Past the discernment, past the ego wanting to be better, to a boy who watched his parents try to kill each other and lost all sense of safety.The judgment was never about other people.Then he gets to the part almost nobody says out loud: three years with a partner taught him more than the previous thirty-four years of study. In this episode, he shares how.What you'll learn:•⁠ ⁠What's actually underneath the urge to be better than someone•⁠ ⁠Why loving your younger self dissolves judgment downstream•⁠ ⁠How to be in relationship with your inner child instead of doing a process on him•⁠ ⁠Why immediate embodiment is possible, and the understand-practice-master sequence isn't required•⁠ ⁠What to do if there's no one in your life who emanates it yetMAP YOUR OWN STORIESGet started at https://liberate.love/map?stevenThe

Dr. Steven Young has been one of the most precious humans in my life. He arrives right on time, in the exact moment I need it, with a message of love that changes something. This episode is a conversation with a man who has spent thirty-seven years in devotion to gnosis, knowing thyself, and who found out last year that he still had a story running underneath everything.It starts with a card game. Steven is five. His older brother is cheating and Steven calls it out, because from where he's sitting he's just naming what's true. His brother's response is to convince all the cousins not to play with him. And in that moment, a five-year-old adopts a story: they don't understand me.That one story became the seed. The soil came after. His parents divorced when he was eight, the family came to America with nothing, they picked furniture out of the trash and lived in a room with no kitchen and no bathroom for a year. His mother waitressed eighty hours a week and couldn't speak English. He was, in his own words, phys

This is a very special episode. Natalie sat down with her identical twin sister, Holly Wheeler, and guided her through a live Love Mapping. Two people who shared a womb, who lived the same childhood in the same house at the same time, one of them now witnessing the other go back through it.We built Liberate.Love partly for this. So much of what we carry was formed inside a family system, and so much of what could restore it lives there too. Holly and Natalie are demonstrating what's possible through their sisterhood.What started as a small trigger on a Monday evening didn't stay small. Holly came home from the studio after a full weekend of family and community, felt an emptiness open up, and reached for tobacco to fill it. That was the thread. Natalie followed it back.It led to a Christmas Eve phone call with her dad, Holly alone in her apartment while he was with her stepbrothers and sisters, sitting with an ache she never let herself feel at the time. It led further back to a DJ booth at a birthday party,

Most of us can name the pattern. The same dynamic with different partners. The same feeling with a mother, a boss, a spouse. What we can't see is why it keeps happening.In front of 110 participants in Costa Rica, Dr. Zach Bush sat down with Raj for a live Love Retrieval. Underneath four decades of stories was a single architecture. The moment he could see it, it dissolved.The body knew firstBefore the first question, a sharp pain arrived in Zach's right shoulder. Stabbing around the clavicle, radiating through his neck. He'd never had it before and hasn't had it since.Then the question came, and he fell into the space. His body knew where they were going before he did.The pain was the doorway.Following the threadRaj moved him back by decades. The first story came from his twenties with startling physical detail: the Colorado air, the wind through his hair, the drive to his girlfriend's house. He wasn't recalling it. He was inside it.He hadn't been able to tell that story in five years. It was compressed too t

This past April at Blue Spirit Retreat Center in Nosara Costa Rica, I guided Dr. Zach Bush through a Love Retrieval in front of 110 people who were told to close their eyes and feel with Zach as he touched some of the deepest parts of his soul. It was one of the most raw, real, intimate group experiences I have ever been part of.You won't see that session on this episode. What you'll hear is Zach recapping it in his own words, days later, still marinating in the revelations that happened.What started as a conversation about why what we give never seems to be received didn't stay there. We revisited memories from nineteen where he's driving a Jeep through Colorado to his girlfriend's house, inside a memory so compressed he hadn't been able to tell it in years, and suddenly he can smell the air. Then he's four, and two stories arrive at once, woven together.Zach was able to see the structure holding all of his stories together. One belief he had carried into every relationship with every woman in his life, thr

The video features a Love Retrieval where the Raj, revisits a difficult childhood memory to gain healing and insight. The session progresses through the following stages:Recalling the Memory: Raj describes moving to Southeast Texas shortly after 9/11. As a brown-skinned teenager, he faced intense bullying and racism. He recounts a specific, humiliating incident in a seventh-grade gym locker room where an eighth-grader physically harassed him, mocked his body, and used a slur.Initial Internalization: Raj explains that he did not feel anger toward his bully at the time; instead, he internalized the experience, feeling disgust, shame, and self-rejection. He reveals that this event drove him to "torture" his body through intense athletic training for years, using physical fitness as a protective mechanism to ensure he would never be a target again.Guided Healing and Reparenting: The guide facilitates a process where Raj connects with his 11-year-old self. Raj offers comfort to his younger self, promising that he

After sharing my live Love Retrieval in Episode One, I wanted to come back and talk about what actually happened in that experience and, more importantly, what has changed since.I recorded the original session in May. It’s now August, and the emotional charge and pattern we uncovered that day no longer lives in my body in the same way. That’s why I recorded this integration episode: to help you understand what you witnessed, how our present-day patterns are often connected to much older stories, and what can happen when those stories are finally met with safety, love, and presence.In this episode, I share:Why the thing we’re fighting about is often not really the thing we’re fighting aboutHow present-day triggers can lead us back to the emotional roots of our patternsWhat it means to follow an emotion through the body instead of trying to think our way out of itThe role of safe, loving human presence in helping an old experience finally completeWhat reparenting, the inner mother, and the inner father actually

In this episode, I'm the one in the chair, and Natalie, my fiancée, is mapping my own patterns live on camera.What starts as a story about money doesn't stay there. Underneath the spiral of there isn't enough time, there isn't enough money is an older pattern: the reflex of disconnecting from my own heart the moment I feel unsafe. Natalie follows the thread back through my thirties, my twenties, my teens, all the way to a middle school locker room in Southeast Texas, months after 9/11, where an eleven-year-old boy learned to believe something about himself that he'd carry for the next two decades.And then something happens that I've guided hundreds of people through, and had never fully received myself.This is what a Love Map looks like when it goes all the way to the root. Unedited. Just what actually happens when someone is witnessed.What we move through:The money scarcity pattern and what it's really about Disconnecting from the heart as protection The difference between an emotion and a story What shame d

Welcome to Liberate.Love, a new kind of media platform where we help you harmonize the most important relationships you'll ever have: with yourself, your partner, your children, and the people who raised you.Every week, real people come on and unpack the hidden stories quietly running their experience of connection and love. We don't tell you what to do here. We model vulnerability, and help you connect with your own innate wisdom.WHAT WE EXPLORE ON THIS SHOWInner child healing and reclamationAttachment patterns, people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and emotional avoidanceHow childhood stories shape adult relationshipsSomatic and nervous system approaches to relational repairConscious relationship, communication, and repair after conflictSelf-love as a practiceCHAPTERS00:00 A four-year-old with too much life02:00 The stories we made true04:00 Why I was stuck for so long06:00 What you'll witness this season08:00 What this will do to you10:00 Why I'm going firstWANT TO EXPERIENCE THIS FOR YOURSELF?Start with a Lo

After 420+ episodes, conversations with some of the world’s brightest luminaries, hundreds of thousands of you reached worldwide, and 50+ deep, vulnerable reflections on my own journey and what I’ve learned along the way, this is my final episode of the Stay Grounded podcast.It’s the end of an era. The most profound dojo for me to develop the skill of asking questions, offering deep presence, and cultivating a global community. But most importantly, the gift of all of you. The journey we’ve been on together is the journey of a lifetime, and I’m so grateful for this one book to close itself so a new one can emerge.This last episode is about giving yourself permission to let go, and how to gracefully find the beauty in transitions. To not just find the joy in closing a chapter, but how to artfully close the book, and put it up on the library shelf as something you can proudly look back on. All of the Stay Grounded episodes will stay online so you can watch them in perpetuity. It’s my gift to each of you, n

For years, I couldn't give myself permission to heal.My parents were good to me. They loved me. By every conventional measure, I had a good life — and that made it almost impossible to look at my own pain and call it what it was.Then I read Mark Wollyn's book and everything shifted.The pain you're carrying doesn't have to have started with you. Your parents went through things. Their parents went through things. All of that unresolved fear and survival patterns lives in the body, gets passed forward, and becomes the water you swim in without ever knowing it's there.That realization didn't break me. It freed me.And now, standing at the threshold of fatherhood, this conversation has never felt more personal. Epigenetic research shows that a father's stress profile and unresolved patterns imprint on his child. That knowledge has made me more intentional about my own healing than anything else ever has.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like something was off but couldn't explain why.What You'll Discove

Nobody taught me how to be vulnerable.Not my parents. Not my teachers. Not the culture I grew up in — where masculinity and emotional openness didn't exactly go hand in hand. I spent years performing a version of myself that looked together, while underneath I was really afraid to be real.I wish someone had handed me a step-by-step guide. I wish someone had sat me down and said: here's why you're hiding, here's what it's costing you, and here's exactly how to build your way out of it.Nobody did. So I built it myself — slowly, painfully, over years of expanding my capacity to be seen.This episode is the guide I wish I'd had. It's for the younger version of me who needed it. And it's for anyone who wants to build the skill of feeling powerful in your vulnerability.What You'll Discover:Why not being vulnerable is costing you more than you think — in your relationships, your money, your health, your sense of self.Why the fear of being seen makes complete sense — it's not weakness. It's a protection mechanism buil

What does healing actually look like?Not the concept of it. Not the retreat version of it. Not the highlight reel of someone on the other side of it.The real thing. In real time. On camera.That's what this episode is.Raj guides his dear friend Lindsay Hergott — a brilliant teacher, coach, and leader in her own right — through the Liberate Mapping Process live. No script. No rehearsal. No agenda except one: create a field of love so safe that Lindsay's own awareness can do what it was always designed to do.What unfolds is one of the most honest, tender, and quietly profound demonstrations of inner child work you will ever witness. Lindsay walks in carrying something real. By the end, her body has physically changed. The anxiety moves. The nausea clears. The 7-year-old who spent decades hiding her gifts, masking her truth, and waiting to be safe enough to come out — she finally does.The Biggest Takeaway:There is no healer in this episode.There is no fixing. There is no coaching. There is no technique being perf

What if love wasn't the reward at the end of the journey?What if it was the fuel?Love is not something you fall into or a state you occasionally access on a good day. Love is a resource. Love is a technology. Love is the most advanced, most powerful, most renewable operating system available to every human being alive right now — more potent than ambition, more durable than discipline, more generative than anything the achievement machine has ever produced.Mike Clark has spent the last year living this as a laboratory. And what he's discovered — through co-creating Love Camp with polar explorer Colin O'Brady, through creating WRLD School for children, through parenting, through marriage, through his own relentless embodiment practice — is something that will quietly rearrange the way you see everything you're creating.This is one of the most expansive, grounded, and genuinely inspiring conversations to ever come through this podcast. By the end of it, you won't just believe that love is a fuel. You'll remembe

Nobody warns you about this part.The proposal happens. The ring goes on. Everyone celebrates. And then somewhere in the quiet — maybe that night, maybe a week later — something unexpected surfaces. A fear. A doubt. A version of yourself you thought you'd already healed.And you wonder if it means something is wrong.It doesn't.In this episode, Raj and @thenatalieadele get radically honest about what engagement actually initiates — the fears that followed the yes, the shadows that surfaced inside a safe container, and the months of real conversation that happened before anyone got down on one knee. This isn't the highlight reel. This is the truth about what deep commitment does to the psyche, and why the pieces that come up aren't signs you're with the wrong person. They're signs you're finally safe enough to go deeper.If you've ever felt confused, scared, or less than certain during what's supposed to be the happiest time of your life — this episode was made for you.8 Things You'll Discover in This Episode:Why

What if every heartbreak, every failure, every person who showed up and walked away — was actually pointing you toward your purpose?Most of us move through life reacting to what happens — calling it bad luck, calling it unfair, calling it "just the way things are." But what if you zoomed out far enough to see the pattern? The same type of relationship that keeps showing up. The same wall you keep hitting at work. The same feeling that follows you no matter how much you try to outrun it.What if none of it was random — and all of it was trying to teach you something?In this episode, Raj introduces a simple but powerful idea: your life has a purpose, and that purpose is hidden inside the very experiences you wish never happened. He breaks it down into two layers — the lessons you're here to heal from and the life you're here to step into — and explains why most people stay stuck in the first layer without ever realizing there's a second one waiting for them.What You'll Discover:Why the same painful patterns keep

What if the moments you most want to escape are the exact moments that are rewiring you?Most of us were taught to fix, push through, or numb the hard stuff. When conflict hits a relationship, when a business deal falls apart, when fear grips your chest — we run. We reach for the phone, the distraction, the solution. But what if the single most transformative thing you could do in those moments is the one thing nobody taught you: just be in it?In this raw and deeply personal monthly reflection, Raj sits down with his close friend Nasya Miller in Nosara, Costa Rica to unpack a month that included getting engaged, navigating business pivots, sitting in emotional turbulence with his partner, and discovering a weekly practice that changed the way he digests life. This isn't theory — it's wisdom from the trenches of building a business, deepening love, and learning how to die well so you can actually live.What You'll Discover:Why a neuroscientist says the moment you're most triggered is the exact moment you're most

What if everything you've been told about fertility and age is wrong?Dr. Ann Shippy — Board-Certified Internal Medicine physician, functional medicine pioneer, former IBM engineer, and author of the new book The Preconception Revolution (foreword by Dr. Mark Hyman) — joins Raj to shatter the myths keeping couples stuck in fear and share what the science actually says about getting pregnant naturally, even in your 40s.In this episode, you'll discover:How a 47-year-old patient conceived naturally after just 3 months of preparationWhy infertility might be a blessing in disguise — and what your body is really telling youThe shocking way trauma rewrites the DNA of your sperm and eggs through epigeneticsWhy your mitochondrial DNA doesn't age the way you've been told it doesHow men with zero sperm count have gone on to have multiple children naturallyThe conversations couples avoid that could be the key to calling in the soul of their childWhy self-love is the single most important fertility protocol — according to

What if miracles aren't mystical, they're scientific?Dr. Larry Farwell is a Harvard-trained neuroscientist selected by TIME Magazine to the TIME 100 Top Innovators of the Century—"the Picassos or Einsteins of the 21st Century." The son of a Manhattan Project physicist, he has advised President George W. Bush on counter-terrorism, freed innocent people from prison using brain fingerprinting technology, and has worked with the FBI and CIA worldwide. Now he's devoted his life to answering one question: Can we scientifically prove that consciousness creates reality?The answer changed everything he thought he knew about human potential.In this episode, Dr. Larry shares the laboratory experiments that proved humans can shift "impossible" probability distributions using consciousness alone—and how you can apply these same principles to create miraculous outcomes in your own life.What You'll Discover:Why quantum physics proves your "impossible" dreams are actually scientifically possibleThe near-death experience that