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For the 104th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Samantha Cole — senior editor of Motherboard, Vice's tech outlet — for a super nostalgic conversation about her new book, How Sex Changed the Internet and the Internet Changed Sex: An Unexpected History. Samantha’s the senior editor of Motherboard, Vice’s tech outlet, and her journalism in the sex/gender/tech space definitely informed the comprehensive overview she was able to deliver. In this episode, we swap early internet stories, talk about how Samantha got started on her unique beat, and discuss the synergistic (and often antagonistic) relationship between sex and the internet, specifically in regards to online dating, revenge porn, social media, and more. For more Samantha Cole: Check out Samantha's website samleecole.com Buy Samantha's book How Sex Changed the Internet, and the Internet Changed Sex Follow Samantha Cole on Twitter @samleecole ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA"

For the 103rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak revisits the Tokyo series, which culminated in a happy ending massage that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.  Courtney shares the full details of that experience — an audio version of her essay published in Cosmo last month — which will probably give you some yoni fever of your own. But first, she's going to give you the Cliff’s Notes of our Tokyo, Japan series about gender equality, LGBTQ rights, and the five levels of sex and intimacy work... and, of course, the interview that led to the dare that led to the best ending to a trip EVER! Here are the links to the other episodes mentioned: A Subcultures Researcher & a Sex Worker Walk into a Tokyo Bar: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/899f6f2d01190869a4a89692debf033a Gay & Married in the U.S., But Not Quite Yet in Japan: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/59e1309bf6cffa56c39ac5b379bc806f Japanese Girl Power: https://pod.link/1154304419/episode/1dfd23828094909116f9b8

For the 102nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes three women who not only harnessed the opportunity in their breakups but turned it into their life's work: Amy Chan of Breakup Bootcamp, Kendra Allen of Break Up Bestie, and Gabrielle Stone of Eat, Pray, #FML. If you've recently been dumped or are struggling to get over a past relationship, this episode is for you! This is the ultimate breakup recovery guide to help you not just survive but thrive after your breakup. No matter how desperate you feel or how embarrassing things have gotten with your ex, you CAN heal your heartbreak, and we'll tell you how. Topics covered include: What are attachment styles? How long does it take to get over a breakup? Should you implement the no-contact rule? Can you get back together with your ex? Can you stay friends with your ex? How to handle friend breakups Tips for avoiding social media triggers post-breakup And more! ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE

Private Parts Unknown is a podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the

For the 101st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alexander Cheves — sex writer, sex worker, sex educator, and author of My Love is a Beast: Confessions — for a primer on fisting. In addition to fisting 101 tips, Alex shares his experiences coming out, living with HIV in a post-PrEP world (vs. in the 80s or even ten years ago), becoming a sex worker, becoming a sex writer, and writing his memoir My Love is a Beast: Confessions. We also discuss tips for exploring kink, how the pandemic shifted how he thinks about his sexuality, and why he recently moved to Berlin, Germany. For more Alexander Cheves: Check out Alex's website alexander-cheves.com Check out Alex's sex advice blog lovebeastly.com Buy Alex's book My Love is a Beast: Confessions Follow Alexander Cheves on Twitter @BadAlexCheves Follow Alexander Cheves on Instagram @badalexcheves ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save 10%): https://

For the 100th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Lola Jean, sex educator, headmistress of 7 Days of Domination (for aspiring pro doms/dommes), and world record holder for volume squirting! We discuss Lola's sexual revolutions, her experience working at a dungeon, going independent as a dominatrix and fetish wrestler, tips for exploring kink, how she discovered she could squirt, how she became a two-time world-record-setting squirter, the two different types of squirters, squirting advice, pegging pointers, how 7 Days of Domination started, and tips for those thinking about domming professionally. For more Lola Jean: Check out Lola Jean's website lolajean.com Check out the 7 Days of Domination website 7daysofdomination.com Follow Lola Jean on Twitter @lolajeandotcom Follow Lola Jean on Instagram @lolajeandotcom ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save 10%): https://www.bonfire.com/store/private-

For the 99th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares how the abortion debate has become a truly national issue as its begun popping up at Southern California City Council meetings. This first happened over the summer in San Clemente, and more recently in Temecula. Courtney takes you inside a recent Temecula City Council to show you how it all went down. ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save 10%): https://www.bonfire.com/store/private-parts-unknown/ Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your sel

For the 98th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Orna Donath, an Israeli sociologist, author, and feminist activist who wrote the book Regretting Motherhood based on her research. We talk about ambivalence vs. regret, the difference in how the genders are socialized around parenthood, the external pressures women face to become mothers, how she conducted her study, and more. For more Orna Donath: Buy Orna's book Regretting Motherhood: A Study ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to save 10%): https://www.bonfire.com/store/private-parts-unknown/ Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This e

For the 97th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hallie Lieberman, author of Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy, to talk us through the highlight reel of sex toy history. Hallie literally has a Ph.D. in sex toys, so she's the perfect guide. We discuss how sex toys were illegal in Texas until 2008 (and scary indicators that sex-related laws are regressing!), the Kinsey Institute, Japanese shunga, Anthony Comstock and his terrible legacy of sexual suppression, Betty Dodson and how she linked masturbation to women's liberation, the incredible story of Gosnell Duncan, and more. Hallie also shares what she learned from writing "Women Explain Why They Buy Male Sex Dolls" for Buzzfeed's Sneaky Links series and her predictions for the intersection of sex toys and politics in the future. Plus, we swap gigolo stories. For more Hallie Lieberman: Listen to Hallie's Joy Boy podcast about Gosnell Duncan Check out Hallie's website hallielieberman.com Follow Hallie on Twitter @halliel

For the 96th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jaclyn Friedman, founder and executive director of EducateUS: SIECUS In Action, to talk about sex ed in the U.S. — and why it's vital that we do better.  Jaclyn is a long-time feminist activist. She's also the author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety. In this episode, Jaclyn shares her mission to transform public school sex education in the United States and how we can do that via voting and running for office on the school board level, as so much of this issue is currently decided locally. We also cover the wide-reaching impact of good sex ed, how the culture wars are drawing attention to work in this space, the insidious, politically co-opted language of "grooming" and how it affects childhood sexual assault survivors, and more. For more Jaclyn Friedman: Check out the EducateUS: SIECUS In Action websit

For the 95th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Zachary Zane, Men's Health Magazine sex advice columnist, Boyslut author (now available for preorder!) & host of the biannual BISLUT sex party for bisexual people and their admirers. Zachary's been dubbed a “Bisexual Mega Influencer” by the NY Daily News. We dive into Zachary's sexual awakening, coming to terms with his bisexuality and coming out, his mission to destigmatize sexuality through his writing, some favorite stories from his erotic newsletter, the best sex party ever, how consent norms differ in different spaces, his favorite type of threesome, getting the Monkeypox vaccine in NYC vs. LA, and more. For more Zachary Zane: Preorder Zachary's book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto Subscribe to the BOYSLUT newsletter zacharyzane.substack.com/welcome Check out Zachary's website zacharyzane.com Follow Zachary on Twitter @ZacharyZane_ Follow Zachary on Instagram @zacharyzane_ ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT O

For the 94th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Diana Greene Foster, who's responsible for some fascinating and groundbreaking research on abortion and contraceptives. Dr. Foster is a professor at the University of California-San Fransisco, the director of research at ANSIRH, and the author of The Turnaway Study: Ten Years, a Thousand Women, and the Consequences of Having—Or Being Denied—An Abortion. In this episode, we dive into the Turnaway Study — why she started the study, how the study was conducted, her hypothesis and how it lined up with the results, what Gloria Steinem said about her book, and more. For more Dr. Diana Greene Foster: Check out the website for ANSIRH ansirh.org Follow Dr. Foster on Twitter @Dianagfoster Buy Dr. Foster's book The Turnaway Study: Ten Years, a Thousand Women, and the Consequences of Having—Or Being Denied—An Abortion ***BUY A PRO-ABORTION SHIRT TO HELP SUPPORT OUR "ABORTION IN POST-ROE AMERICA" REPORTING TRIP (use code PRIVATE to sav

For the 93rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes body paint artist Paul Roustan for a conversation about how he got started, the importance of separating sex from nudity, what his wife and kids think about his work, how he used his body paint art as a launch pad to becoming an NTF creator, what it's like to have groupies in the metaverse, and more. For more Roustan: Check out Roustan's website bodypainter.com Check out Roustan's YouTube channel youtube.com/roustanbodypaint Follow Roustan on Twitter @RoustanNTF Follow Roustan on Instagram @roustan Courtney and Roustan's body paint collabs: Body Painting Courtney 4K: https://youtu.be/7eo_8benGj0 Body Painting Courtney Again!: https://youtu.be/m4nM6j8lSnA Naked at the Beach and Pool with Body Paint: https://youtu.be/3EZ8Z4zQjHU New Year's Pre-Party Body Painting: https://youtu.be/mph_sVS60Mc Body Painting Courtney: https://youtu.be/PrRofOFi0F8 Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: ht

For the 92nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes research psychologist, psychotherapist, and media commentator Dr. Frieda Birnbaum, Ph.D., for a primer on toxic relationships, how to avoid them, and how to rewire abusive patterns that might be lurking around from your upbringing. But first, we talk about what it's like to be an older parent because, notably, Dr. Frieda is the oldest woman in America to give birth to twins at age 60! With her unique perspective on parenting, we also get into kids vs. career and whether or not to have kids if you don't feel particularly passionate about it. For more Dr. Frieda Birnbaum: Check out Dr. Frieda's website friedabirnbaum.wixsite.come/drfrieda Read Dr. Frieda's book Life Begins at 60: A New View of Motherhood, Marriage, and Reinventing Ourselves  Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode i

Unfortunately, a couple of weeks ago, the U.S. Supreme Court overturned Roe v Wade in a devastating rollback of rights. So for the 91st episode of Private Parts Unknown, we are countering a common misconception that people who are already moms don't get abortions or aren't pro-abortion. But that's not true: According to 2019 CDC statistics, 60% of people who get abortions are already mothers. So today, host Courtney Kocak speaks with reporter, abortion activist, AND mom Robin Marty, in addition to writer, speaker, and mom activist Christine Michel Carter about why abortion access is necessary, even for people who WANT to be pregnant, how to talk to your kids about abortion, and more. Robin Marty is the author of Handbook for a Post-Racial America and the updated New Handbook for a Post-Roe America, in addition to several other books, and she's currently the director of operations for the West Alabama Women's Center. Christine Michel Carter is the author of MOM AF and Can Mommy Go To Work? For more from today'

In a very grim turn of events, Roe v. Wade was overturned by SCOTUS last week. For the 90th episode of Private Parts Unknown, we're going to hold space for that grieving process — and also hear directly from the people litigating the case and an organization at the forefront of the pro-choice movement about what this means, how we got here, and what's to come. Host Courtney Kocak gives her reaction to Friday news and shares her personal experience with abortion. Then we talk through the biggest takeaways from Friday's press conference, where the Center for Reproductive Rights and Mississippi Center for Justice discussed the devastating ruling in the U.S. Supreme Court case Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization, with clips from the following speakers: Nancy Northup, President and CEO of the Center for Reproductive Rights Julie Rikelman, Senior Director of U.S. Litigation at the Center for Reproductive Rights Hillary Schneller, Senior Staff Attorney at the Center for Reproductive Rights Robert McDuff

For the 89th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak introduces you to her OTHER podcast, The Bleeders, a new show about book writing and publishing. BUT DON'T WORRY, today's episode still manages to be very queer! The first guest for The Bleeders was the second ever guest for Private Parts Unknown — Samantha Allen, author of Real Queer America: LGBT Stories From Red States and the upcoming novel Patricia Wants to Cuddle (pub date June 28th). She shares so many nuggets of wisdom for writers. We talked shop about writing and publishing start to finish, book advances, audiobooks and her Audible Original (M to (WT)F: Twenty-Six of the Funniest Moments from My Transgender Journey), her foray from nonfiction to fiction, and the very trans sci-fi she used to devour pre-transition. Happy Pride, everyone! Hope you like this podcast (if you do, check out the links below for more), and we'll be back next with a brand new episode of Private Parts Unknown. CHECK OUT THE BLEEDERS FEED FOR MORE EPISODES (AND

For the 88th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Amir Marashi, aka "The Vagina Whisperer" (@nycgyno on Instagram), for a fun and informative episode that spans from orgasms to endometriosis and Freud to Fear of Flying. We also discuss misconceptions about the clitoris and how that even affects doctors, different treatment options for post-menopausal women and others who need a boost (including Cliovana and "the love treatment"), his natural lube recommendation from your kitchen cupboard, and his sexual health tips for vagina-havers of all ages. For more Dr. Amir Marashi: Follow Dr. Marashi on Instagram @nycgyno Check out Dr. Marashi's website nycgyno.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling

For the 87th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts, Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra, welcome Nova Scotia-based married couple and co-hosts of the Turn Me On podcast — Jeremie Saunders and Bryde MacLean — for a fascinating episode about their journey opening up their relationship and becoming polyamorous. We dig into how living with a life-shortening illness has impacted their trajectory, how they forged the relationship dynamic they truly wanted without having a model, relationship contracts, how their new partners fit into their daily lives, having different money values, separating finances, how their parents feel about the lifestyle, poly jealousies not being what you’d think, WHETHER OR NOT THEY STILL F*CK, and more. For more Jeremie Saunders and Bryde MacLean: Listen to the Turn Me On podcast  Follow Turn Me On on Instagram @turnmeonpodcast Follow Jeremie on Instagram @jeremiesaunders Follow Bryde on Instagram @brydemaclean Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to suppo

For the 86th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak and Sofiya Alexandra revisit one of our most popular episodes: a deep dive into why women cheat. First, we speak to an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of “Nikki,” then Ashley Madison’s Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, and finally, their Communications Director, Isabella Mise, who co-authored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity. You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one! Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guid