Beyond Good Intentions With Kristen Duke

In this TRUSTED by your Teenager podcast episode, we chat about what to do if you don't like your teenagers friends. My goal is to give you bite sized tips for teens in under 10 minutes, and this one was under 7!  This is the first time I recorded a YouTube video right alongside this, so if you prefer to watch, you can do that here.  A few simple tips that might surprise you about what you can do if you don't like your teens friend. In this episode, I also mentioned: The TRUSTED Challenge: (you need to join this before you can join the private community, Team Trusted.) I shared that inside that space, we discuss micro details on how to become more TRUSTED and also lessons on tough teen topics such as teens & friends. Also mentioned, Confidence Chat Cards: 50 different scenarios on how to help your teenager boost their confidence.  I'm always grateful when you share my content, comment, like, and if you want to listen on your favorite podcast platform, you can do that here:   

I often get asked for more clarification when I share about becoming trusted, so I explain that here, what that actually means. Join the TRUSTED challenge by Saturday night (July 27) we start Monday morning! The TRUSTD Challenge info page. 

Piggybacking onto the last episode, I share a few more thoughts on the contemptuous teenager, as well as responding to another message from a mom who has an irritable teenager who doesn't want to go anywhere when mom plans fun.  I always aim to be as gentle as possible, because I am not into mom shaming, and I got a little blunt here, because I love you! You may enjoy the Trusted Challenge on July 29th, which I mention at the end here, my answer and solution to many things: Become TRUSTED by your teenager. 

Got this question for my "ask me anything" i posted on Instagram this last week: "Preteen is sooooo contemtuous and sarcatics. Wanna stop the behavior before she teenages." Shared my thoughts on THAT in this episode AND about the challenge I have coming up. If you haven't already taken the parenting personality quiz, so that now to get in the side door for the challenge early!    

I got a message from a mom asking for help connectingwith her teen, whom she says she has nothing in common with. Listen up to see what I share in this episode! Want help guiding your parenting by discovering your personality? Take the 1 question quiz here: take the quiz. 

Something I've been thinking about a lot lately, is how to help YOU really pay attention when it comes to learning skills to become trusted by your teen, so I share my thoughts here....    

Sharing about the wondering wedding weekend and a little of my "vacation depression" I"m feeling now that it's over. Feel free to message me any other questions you may have if I don't cover it in this recap! My next event I'm planning and excited for: the Transform Retreat on September 9th in Denver! It's going to be EPIC, and I can't wait to add you to my village, and for you to walk away with more tools to become trusted by your teenager. If you didn't see the bonus of a 12 month payment plan, let me know and I'll get you on that track!

I had to go a tad over 10 minutes to get all of my thoughts out on planning ahead to the next stage even while you're in a current stage.  If you haven't seen about the Transform Retreat, make sure you check it out!

I have a selfish wish, and I'm not going to tell you what it is here, you'll have to listen! Email me if you want to see what I mentioned: kristen@kristenduke.com   

Just minutes after I recorded the last episode, I got a call from my son that I shared the story about him. I told him about what I have planned in the next few months, and discussed the importance of sharing stories, and he said, "What does sharing your story have to do with parenting?" I answer that question in this episode more in depth, it's a great question! Sharing challenging stories, and especially about your kids is not easy, and that's why I've done this in a safe environement in Team Trusted, our private community, and an aspect that I'm excited about in the Transform Retreat (some will be anonymous) for those that feel safe to share.  Join the retrat here: https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-retreat/ Email me and we can set up a video chat to discuss your questions: kristen@kristenduke.com    

The tears came out today!  I wasn't planning to share this today, but I just got back from the gym where I ran into someone (I barely know) and we talked for an hour... I walked away so benefitted from that experience, that it reminded me of how sharing our vulnerable stories has the opportunity to bless others in countelss ways, many we will never know about. I share how a friends story she shared 10 years ago stuck in my mind, and helped me bless & support my son, and I'll forever be grateful. (Listen to a follow up to this episode in the next one, number 11). Come to the Transform Retreat September 9th! https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-retreat/ You can always email me an questions, happy to hop on a call and discuss your desire to attend the retreat with hesitations: kristen@kristenduke.com  See the retreat highlight bubble on Instagram, special bonus of Marco Polo mentoring when you sign up before Mother's Day!

In this quick episode, I share my observations and thoughts after walking through the halls of the high school today.  AND.... That I'm sharing a fun series in my bestie club emails in the next few weeks leading up to Mother's Day, so if you're not in that club, and you wanna be, you can join here: https://kristenduke.com/join/ 

I got invited to a local event with META, where they share details about their family and parental support. You can read all about that here.  I love social media and I've successfully guided my teens THROUGH it, and you can too. I have a free guide that I'm updating, so stay tuned on how you can grab that soon. I also have the Tough Teen Topics PDF with questions to talk to your teen about social media all ready for you insite Team Trusted, JOIN us and earn your teens trust. https://kristenduke.com/teamtrusted/

Today is my daughter Cali's 15th birthday, and I share what we like to do for birthdays AND about getting her drivers permit with some stories of my experience with teaching my teens to drive.  Dropping 2 episodes today because the one I shared this morning was supposed to be shared yesterday (I recorded it then) and I want to share 7 episodes in 7 days on this kickoff week.  THEN when I announce that I've pulled out the podcast again, I'll have 7 quick episodes to listen to. I love the number 7, my birthday is 7/7, so it's just a THING with me. If you're not feeling super connected with your teen, I'd love to invite you to join Team Trusted to become more TRUSTED by your teenager, that SAFE place they can come talk to you. 

Recorded an episode on the road, here's to my goal of 4 episodes in 7 days before I announce this resurgance publically. I still haven't had anyone message me saying they've heard them! FREE: In this episode, we cover some teen dating thoughts and tips, download the freebie I created for you here: https://kristenduke.com/date-ideas-for-teens/ Included are 27 Creative Teen Date ideas that can ALSO be used to encourage group get togethers with friends!  I also mention the Dating PDF to discuss dating questions with your teen inside of Team Trusted (I now have Tough Teen Topics and sharing more throughout the year to make it easier to talk to your teen about tough topics!)

Chatting about the need not only for self care, but self improvement, and how much I value and appreciate when I can focus on this. I ended quickly to make sure I made it under 10 minutes, but details on the link below after you listen!! If wish we had a REPLY button here on the podcast, because I want to know how you support yourself emotionally, and if you're ready for a transformation. Because I'm ready to show you how! Check out the deets to TRANSFORM and join me in Colorado in September https://kristenduke.com/sales-page-retreat/  Email me kristen@kristenduke.com with any questions or reach out on Instagram! 

Hearing others stories are connecting, and helps us all feel less alone, so I will be sharing stories of others (without names or details) to help you better recognize that A) you're not alone and B) You can always do something to improve. Not only do I share others stories, but also my feedback to them, so you can learn as well.  Feel free to message me your story, and not only will I reply to you personally, but may share with others to help them learn, too. For even more hands on help, join Team Trusted where you'll get both trainings on common parenting blind spots and an opportunity to chat with the village: https://kristenduke.com/teamtrusted/ You can also message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ 

I have been thinking about bringing this podcast back, and today, on a whim, I recorded this quick episode...listen to hear about the new direction I want to take this and WHY I decided to bring it back!  Grab the new dating freebie here: https://kristenduke.com/date-ideas-for-teens/ Mesage me on Intagram https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ Or email me if you listened to this to hear what special freebie you get (expires April 17th) kristen@kristenduke.com  I guess this is season 4, since season 1 was in 2018, season 2 in 2019 and season 3 ended abrubtly just after the pandemic started and just before I moved to Colorado in the summer of 2020!

I have admired Shawni's parenting from afar as I've read her blog 71Toes.com for many years. She is just about 3 years ahead of me in this parenting gig, and I felt inspired seeing how she mothered just a few steps ahead of me.  I was so delighted to hear her words of encouragement for teens, words she hopes her kids will know before leaving the home and under her roof. She came up with a list of 5 all encompassing hopes for her kids, which I loved hearing her thoughts. For more on my thoughts, I shared about Episode 41 of 10 things I want my kids to know.  If you are new around here, I encourage you to scroll and listen to past episode, and join the teen topic discussions on Instagram: @KristenDukeChats  

Episode #100!!!! I'm so excited to introduce you to my high school best friend, Natalie. We met right after my 14th birthday, the week I moved from Louisiana to Texas about to begin my freshman year of high school. We had so much fun during our teen years, and you'll hear us talk about the good, the crazy, our parents, and then of course how all of that has affected how we parent our teens. One of my favorite quotes from Natalie in this episode:  "Worry is a wast of imagination. I'd like to imagine the best case scenario."  I invite you all to do that. Imagine the best. AMAZON is our ever present podcast sponsor, shop through my link for anything you may purchase there.  Come share on Instagram (@KristenDukeChats) your thoughts after listening, and TAG your high school bestie! If you missed any previous episodes, check them out! The first year I was really good and writing a blog post sharing a summary here on the home page Beyond Good Intentions Podcast. Email me if you've listened to all 100 episodes!