Your Anxious Child

Chelsea Conaboy is a  journalist specializing in personal and public health. Her recent book, Mother Brain, is now available in paperback. Her book is a thoughtful and well researched discussion of the emerging neuroscience about the brain changes that occur as a result of becoming a parent. In addition, she offers an incise critique about the concept of "Maternal Instinct" and how it is fundamentally flawed and inaccurate.https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/26/opinion/sunday/maternal-instinct-myth.html This is a major developmental period and transition which is actually similar in magnitude to the changes that occur in adolescence.  However, this sensitive developmental transition has not received the attention and recognition that truly deserves. Chelsea Conaboy has corrected this imbalance with her highly readable and thoughtful book     

https://cc.au.dk/en/recreational-fear-lab The question of why we would be drawn to movies and other material such as haunted houses is what Mathias Clasen and Marc Andersen investigate at the Recreational Fear Lab at Aarhus University. The negative effects of children watching movies that are inappropriate for their age has received substantial attention. However, Clasen and Andersen note how all ages are drawn in different ways to scary material, and in their work they demonstrate some of benefits of this exposure. Among other things it can help us learn how to manage our fears and bring us closer together. In this interview we talk about "the threat simulation theory of horror movies" and importantly how horror movies represent one end of a continuum in which we seek to explore fear and other emotions.  They point that even in nursery or preschools books, such as We're Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen and Helen Oxenbury explore what it is like to be afraid. These safe explorations are one way in which

We are born with a set of primitive reflexes that are necessary for our survival but over the course of the first year should be gradually inhibited or integrated with higher cortical functions over time. Unfortunately, for a variety of reasons primitive reflexes do not alway get integrated as higher cotrical functions get online. Sonia Story is a leading expert on the role of primitive reflexes in contributing to a variety of mental health issues. It is an exciting area that provide a new set of interventions for children based on movement patterns.      Some helpful links to supplement the podcast How neurodevelopmental movements can help with mental health issues. https://www.moveplaythrive.com/MentalHealth   The importance of Primitive Reflexes https://www.moveplaythrive.com/learn-more/item/importance-of-integrating-reflexes   About ADHD and Primitive Reflexes https://www.moveplaythrive.com/learn-more/item/can-adhd-be-dissolved About Sonia Story's Brain and Sensory Foundation course https://www.moveplay

In this interview we talk about needle phobia and pediatric pain with Dr Jody Thomas who is the Founder and Director of the Meg Foundation. The Meg Foundation is one of the primary resources to help children deal with needle phobia and pediatric pain. It is so important for parents and childen to know that something can be done to make the experience  vaccinations and blood draws less scary and painful. Dr Thomas and the Meg Foundation are the go to resource for helping parents and children cope with vaccinations and other medical procedures. In this interview Dr Thomas outlines the steps to help children with this important part of their medical care. https://www.megfoundationforpain.org/

  Bethany Saltman has written a compelling book about the science of attachment. It is a memoir of her journey into the science of attachment, a summary of what is known about attachment and the process of how this important theory was established. In this interview we talk about some of the basic features of attachment. The relationship an infant forms with their caregiver puts down a psychological foundation that biases development in certain directions. For the purpose of this podcast, we note that an insecure attachment increased the probablility of developing an anxiety disorder. However, developmental trajectories are complex and nothing is fixed in stone.  Bethany Saltman has many facets to her work, including being a writing coach and she can be found at https://www.bethanysaltman.com/strange-situationn.com

Dr Zucker is a licensed psychologist in Washington D.C. She has published several books on the treatment of anxiety disorders. In this interview , I talk with her about her two most recent books: A Perfectionist's Guide to Not Being Perfect and How to Manage Your Social Power in Middle School. The two books deal with separate but related challenges of the middle school years. The middle school years can pour jet fuel on any tendencies towards perfectionism. And it has been said of middle school children that peer relations become so important that it is as if children get addicted to popularity. Her comments on social power can help children manage these rough waters. For more information on Dr. Zucker https://www.bonniezuckerandassociates.com/publications We discuss two videos in the interview that she recommends. J. Jiang What I learned from 100 days of rejection. https://youtu.be/-vZXgApsPCQ Brooks Gibbs How to Stop a Bully https://youtu.be/7oKjW1OIjuw

  Anxious Nation is a provocatively intelligent look into the global crisis of anxiety and mental health as it affects Americans, especially it crippling impact on children and adolescents. In this podcast I talk with Laura Morton about her new film which opens on May 3 with livestream event. For more information go to anxiousnation.com  

If you have a child with OCD, Natasha Daniels is a resource you want to know about. She has a variety of online course such as "How to Teach Your Kids to Crush OCD" and "Crushing OCD Classs for Kids & Teens" and actually much more.  She can be found at natashadaniels.com

Judith Warner is author of AND THEN THEY STOPPED TALKING TO ME: Making Sense of Middle School which is the topic of this podcast. It is a time period most of us remember all too well and a time when many anxiety disorders become quite evident. She has also written New York Times best sellers: Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety and We've Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication. She has been a frequent contributor to The New York Times and is a senior fellow at the Center for American Progress. She has written a highly readable book which explains this vulnerable phase of development with clarity and precision.   You can read her other articles on her website https://judithwarner.com/

To talk about reading on a podcast concerning anxious children may seem a little far a field. However, reading is an essential skill in which if you struggle with it, school  becomes a very stressful and anxiety provoking environment. Reading also helps in many different ways in dealing with anxiety. Unfortunately, we are in bit of a reading crisis, where recent surveys have shown the 2/3 of 4th graders are not proficient readings. Claire N. Rubman, PhD is a psychologist who specializes in reading and we are talking about her new book This May Be Difficult to Read: But You Really Should (for your child's sake)  For more information Dr Rubman website is https://difficulttoread.com/    

David Carbonell, PhD is a clinical psychologist who has specialized in the treatment of anxiety disorder since 1985. He is the author of several books on anxiety: Panic Attacks Workbook, The Worry Trick, Fear of Flying Workbook, Outsmarting Your Anxious Brain The Intrusive Thoughts Toolkit (coauthored)and he has a very helpful website anxietycoach.com In this interview we talk about some of the basic in the treatment of anxiety disorders and how he has found it helpful to conceptualize anxiety as a trick. 

Randy Frost is a emeritus professor of psychology at Smith College. He is the co-author of Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding the Meaning of Things.   He is widely considered to the world's expert on the topic of hoarding and has published over 100 scientific papers on OCD, hoarding and perferctionsism. Eric Storch, PhD is a professor in Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences Department at Baylor College of Medicine. He is an expert on OCD and  related conditions in childhood with over 100 publications on these topics   Also Randy Frost and I have published a paper on hoarding in children Edward H. Plimpton, Randy O. Frost, Brianna C. Abbey and Whitney Dorer "Compulsive Hoarding in Children: 6 Case Studies" International Journal of Cognitive Therapy, 2009,, 2 (1) 88-104

Dr Kissen is a clinical psychologist who is the CEO of Light On Anxiety CBT Treatment Center. I talked with her about her recent book on using cognitive behavior therapy to help with parental anxiety. 

In this interview, I talked with Ellen Hendriksen, PhD about social phobia and her book How To Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety She is clinical psychologist  who works at the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD) in Boston MA. Her website ELLENHENDRIKSEN.COM contains a number of helpful resources for dealing with Social Anxiety and a very helpful online course on Social Anxiety.  I have found the way in which she talks about Social Anxiety in terms of a worry that a fatal flaw will be revealed in four potential ways a very helpful tool in my work, but there much more as you will see in the interview 

Michael A. Tompkins, PhD has just published the anxiety & depression workbook for teens: simple cbt skills to help you deal with anxiety, worry, and sadness with New Harbinger Publications. He a cofounder of the San Francisco Bay Area Center for Cognitive Therapy, an Assistant Clinical Professor at the Universtiy of California at Berkleley and an adjunt faculty at the Beck Institute for Cognitve Therapy. Among his other publications relevant to this podcast are My Anxious Mind: A Teens Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic and Zero to 60: A Teen's Guide to Manage Frustration, Anger and Everyday Irritations. Given the documented increase in the prevalence of depression and anxiety in teens, this is a timely and important topic that I was fortunate to talk with Dr Tompkins about.  

Jeremy W. Pettit, PhD and Ryan M. Hill, PhD,  experts on suicidal ideation and suicide in teens talk about their new book overcoming suicidal thoughts for teens: cbt activities to reduce pain, increase hope, build meaningful connections I apologize for the sound quality in this interview, there were some unexplained technical problems, but the content is still very important and worth your listening time.

Ed Tronick, PhD is one of the leading authorities on infant development. His collaboration with the famous pediatrician, Berry Brazelton, MD was instrumental in the development of Brazelton Neonatal Assessment Scale. His Still Face Experiment with mothers and infant monumental in demonstrating the social competence infants. A link to a video demonstration is listed below https://youtu.be/YTTSXc6sARg

Robyn L. Stern, LCSW, is a licensed social and therapist in New York where she specializes in Body Dysmorphic Disorder, OCD and BFRBs. This is a condition someone becomes preoccupied with perceived defects in their appearance which are not apparent to others.  This is an important psychiatric condition to know about. It is more frequent than OCD, and can lead to unnecessary cosmetic surgery. In this interview I talk with Robyn Stern who is passionate advocate for BDD awareness She knows first hand about what it is like to suffer from BDD and she has two very compelling videos in which she bravely tells her story. I would strongly recommend watching these videos.  https://youtu.be/77JthR5HXv8 and https://fb.watch/go3vJ3C-2q/

Heather White is the author of One Green Thing: Discover Your Hidden Power to Help Save the Planet. She is the founder of OneGreenThing.org and has two decades of experience in environmental advocacy including serving as a presidential campaign staffer for Al Gore and numerous other activities. Climate change is the big challenge for the younger generation and many therapist such as myself are noticing how much it comes up with our young clients. Heather White discusses the importance of a intergenerational discussion of climate change, how doing one green thing a day can create the necessary cultural shift to deal with this crisis and most importantly how to identify the ways in which you and your child can play a part. The program of action Heather White describes are crucial in managing the understandable anxiety that comes with thinking about climate change. 

Silke Rose West and Joseph Sarosy have written a wonderful book How to Tell Stories to Children. Anxious children can greatly benefit from stories that parents tell them and this book tells you how to get started. As they explain storytelling "... becomes like a Swiss Army knife for parents-a multi-tool that helps a child learn new skills, build empathy, soothe difficulty emotions, and make meaning out the challenging moments in life". Story telling is as much and probably more  about building a connection with your child than making a narrative. As they explain "The goal is not perfect story. The goal is connection". And if we are going to help our anxious children, it begins with connection.   You can learn more about this story telling method at HowToTellStoriesToChildren.com and there is also a podcast on itunes with the same name