Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Let's talk about masculinity. In 2020, there is still such a gap of understanding between men and women that deeply affects our romantic relationships and prevents us expressing our love fully and honestly. In this episode Matt explains: - How men struggle with vulnerability vs. expectations of "being a man" - Why men are afraid to be honest about their fears and inner feelings - What men AND women can do to make men feel safer expressing their honest emotions --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey, and Stephen @stephenhhussey on Instagram and Twitter.  Email the show with your thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com Download the 5 Techniques To Get Him To Open Up at GetHimToTalk.com      

There's no easy way to talk about infidelity. It's a painful, difficult topic that evokes a strong emotional reaction. But it's also one that so many people face that I wanted to bring you one of the wisest voices out there on this topic: relationship expert, psychotherapist, and bestselling author Esther Perel! (@estherperelofficial)   Listen as we talk about why even happy people can be driven to cheat, what to do about it, and whether there is ever a path to recovering a relationship after infidelity.      Email your thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com! 

When you fall in love, it's way too easy to start trying to fit someone into your world, even if their behaviour compromises your deepest values. You start to go off track, for weeks, months, years, until you're left asking, "How did I get here?"    If you've ignored the red flags for too long. Stop. Pause. Make a decision that NOW is the time to get back on track and listen to this message...

You might be the kind of person who is funny, joyful, and amazing to be around when you’re in a great mood. But what about when things get tough? Or stressful? Or when there’s conflict and problems? It’s time to ask the really important question that defines so many relationships: “how are you at your worst??” Listen to the episode to find out why this is one of the most defining parts of yourself you can ever work on to improve your love life... Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey, and Stephen @stephenhhussey  

*NEW SERIES* Could it be true? After 3+ years off the air…is our podcast ‘Love Life With Matthew Hussey’ really back?? YES. And what’s really exciting is that this time around I am joined by my brother, and co-writer of the New York Times bestselling Get The Guy book, Stephen Hussey! (@stephenhhussey) In fact, he’s going to be introducing each episode as we go on this new podcast adventure together. Exciting times! So whatever you’re doing right now, you don’t even need to stop it. Just fire up episode 1 in your car, or while you’re doing chores around the house, and let us know what you think! Today we talk about: Why The Wrong Guys ALWAYS Approach You. If you’ve wondered how to get the attention of the guy you really want instead of the ones you don’t, this episode for you! Send us your thoughts and feedback via email to podcast@matthewhussey.com Enjoy!   Matthew x

  After you break up with your ex (unless you flee to another state or get an entirely new group of friends) chances are good you’ll run into him again. So let’s get you prepared for this inevitability. I’ll be honest – there’s no way it won’t be awkward, but if you get yourself in the right state of mind, it will be a lot less awkward. I’ll even give you a line to say to your ex that will immediately break the tension and make you both laugh. Think of this episode like a mini-survival guide; Use my advice and you may even leave the interaction feeling better about your breakup, and yourself, than before.

Ok… let’s answer this age-old question once and for all: Do men prefer women who are “hard to get,” or do they just want a woman who will take control and be the aggressor? The answer is – drumroll please – NEITHER! In this episode, I explain what “Men live for the ‘Maybe’” means, and tell you how you can attract the guy you’re interested in and challenge him to pursue you. In other words, you get to do the choosing, while he does the chasing. Hey, looks like the answer to that age-old question isn’t “neither,” but “BOTH,” after all. ;)

Today’s caller has a really interesting question: She knows for certain that she wants to marry a man who’s Jewish, but she just “accidentally” had a great date with a man who isn’t. What should she do? We all have our dating deal breakers, religion-based or not, so this is an issue most everyone can relate to. I break down this tricky situation and, together, we’ll weigh the pros and cons of enjoying the now vs. cutting things off quickly before anyone gets hurt. 

You love him. You want to be with only him. But he wants to keep his options open. He knows how much it hurts you that he can’t give you the commitment you want, so why does he stay in touch and keep stringing you along? The reason is simple. What you need to do about it, well, that’s the hard part. In today’s LOVE Life, I take a call from a young woman named Julia who’s in this painful situation. I explain what’s going on in his head and tell her how to respond. If you, too, have ever found yourself holding onto hope that a man will give you more because he’s not kind enough to let you go, don’t miss this episode.

You may be surprised by my message today. After all, I’m the first person to encourage you to be ambitious.  But I want to warn you of the danger of trying to be good at too many things or, at least, the tendency to label yourself as an expert in too many areas. I give you a real example from my own life, and share a brilliant quote from the infamous Jameson (who you may know from my YouTube videos) that will inspire you to stay focused on your passion.

Is it wise to date a guy who just got out of a relationship? How can you know if he’s actually ready to get serious with you now or if he’s still too hurt from the past? Actually, I can’t answer that for you… but HE can. Grab a pen, because in today’s episode, I’m going to give you 3 questions you can ask Mr. Recently Single to uncover his true feelings about his breakup and reveal what’s in store for you if you get involved with him now. I also give you an important warning and my #1 tip for protecting your heart while his heals.

  We all have insecurities about qualities we don’t have. Sometimes, gaining confidence is simply a matter of appreciating the other amazing qualities we do have. But today I want to share an even BIGGER secret to overcoming feelings of inadequacy about the things you want most, but lack. It begins with a simple mindset, and only takes one belief to become a reality. Before you tell yourself you can’t do something or put a negative label on yourself, please listen to this episode. It’s never too late…

Our caller, Karen, has a crush on her friend. She thinks there’s a chance he likes her too, but he’s very shy. Is there a way she can test the waters without risking too much, she wonders? Absolutely! In today’s LOVE Life, I’m going to give her – and you – my #1 strategy to take a friend from a familiar context to a flirty one (aka an actual date) without ever risking rejection. Before you know it, you’ll be on the road to romance, with the Friend Zone in your rear view mirror.

Recently, I picked up an iconic book for the first time that you likely read in your youth. (You’ll have to listen to this episode to find out what it is.) In this book, and the actions of its famous main character, I uncovered one of the most important life lessons that I also teach in my live seminars. I want to share it with you today because it’s a quick illustration of exactly what to do when you’re feeling low, abandoned or depressed… and gives you the secret recipe for overcoming weakness any time you feel it taking over. So grab a glass of wine and join our own (5-minute) mini book club for two!

See that handsome guy over there across the bar? He actually wants to approach you. But he’s way too terrified of being rejected to take a shot in the dark. He needs the right signals from you to make his move. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I’m sharing 3 tips you can use tonight that make you instantly more approachable, along with a fascinating little fact about men that will literally change the way you look at them forever. Intrigued? Have a listen… But be warned, you may have to start turning the men away!

I’m going to let you in on a secret: Men desperately want to feel like real men. Even though we proudly use “product” in our hair and aren’t ashamed to cry at Pixar films, there’s still a part of us that loves it when our masculinity is validated by the women in our lives. So today I’m handing you 3 shockingly simple compliments you can give to your guy that will make him feel amazing around you. Say them cheekily, say them sweetly, it doesn’t matter – as long as you say them – and watch as he swells with pride and affection for you. (Yes, we really are that simple sometimes.)

It’s only natural to feel a little jealous of the “other woman” in your man’s life. But if your relationship is worth it, you can deal with a close female friend. However, the key is NOT his expecting you to just “get over it” – he’s got to meet you half way and be part of the solution. In today’s episode, I explain how you can adjust your attitude toward the situation, plus reveal the two, non-negotiable things you need from your partner to protect your ego – and your relationship.

  We all understand by now what “Late-Night Booty Call Guy” wants from you. But today we’re looking at a species with a different, much more confusing motive: “Man Who Just Wants to Cuddle.” What is really going on here? Does he want a girlfriend, or just a warm body to keep him company? I take a call from a brave woman named Nicky who admits she’s in this baffling situation with a man she really likes, and I give her advice on how to confront him and find out what he’s really after. Because if he literally wants to “Netflix and Chill,” that’s wasting her time when she could be out there finding someone who wants to cuddle… but only after the kind of intimacy that happens in a real relationship.

In today’s episode I take a question from a listener named Ashley, who believes that she’s doing all the right things to meet men, but can’t seem to understand why guys aren’t approaching her or asking her out. The bad news? She actually does need to make more of an effort than she realizes. The amazing news? She is actually only one millimeter off from meeting more men than she could possibly know what to do with! It only takes a tiny adjustment in what she’s (and probably you’re) doing right now. I explain exactly how to make this shift and even give you the cutest phrase you can use on a guy you like – stolen right from my own real-life story!

As a business owner who oversees a large team, I’m always striving to improve my skills as a manager. But, let’s face it: even when I’m in “boss mode,” I never really take my “relationship coach” hat off. So, the other day, when I was utilizing a management technique designed to give constructive criticism to staff while still inspiring them to do their best, it occurred to me – this technique would work wonders with a romantic partner, too! In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I’m going to share this simple, two-step technique that will help you communicate better with your man when you want to let him know you’re unhappy with his behavior– and get better results, every time.