Sally Kalan

You can skip straight to the prayer if you need it today. ❤️ There’s just a short introduction first, and then I want you to get comfortable, close your eyes if you can, and simply listen.This episode is for you if you’ve been asking God, Where is my person? Have You forgotten about me? Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?Maybe you’re tired of waiting. Tired of lessons. Tired of watching love happen for everybody else. Maybe you trust God, but there’s still a part of you that wonders whether the love you’ve been praying for is ever going to arrive.Today, I want to pray with you.For the heartbreak you’ve already survived. For the person you may still be struggling to release. For the fear that you’ve missed your chance. For the love you still hope is ahead of you.And most of all, I want to pray that while you trust God with the pages you cannot see yet, you don’t miss the beautiful life He has already given you today.Come back to this prayer whenever you need it. Send it to someone whose heart needs it too. ❤️

You love God. You’ve built a life. You’ve healed, grown, prayed, dated, deleted the apps, downloaded the bloody apps again — and still you find yourself asking: God, where is my person?Maybe the years you’ve called “waiting” aren’t dead time at all.Maybe you’ve outgrown the old, but you haven’t met the new yet.In this episode, I’m talking about what might actually be happening during those years when love seems nowhere to be found — how healing can make dating harder, why the relationships you once would have chosen may no longer fit, and why your life is not on hold just because your person hasn’t arrived.Perhaps one day you’ll look back at the years you thought nothing was happening and realise: God was there. You were becoming. And you weren’t standing still at all.If this episode found you at exactly the right time, send it to someone else who’s waiting for their person too.And if you want to work with me privately around love, relationships, dating, heartbreak or the patterns you’re ready to leave behind

Have you spent months maybe even years trying to work out how someone really feels about you?Maybe it’s time to stop asking whether he chooses you and ask a completely different question: are you actually experiencing being chosen?In this episode, I’m talking about the enormous difference between surviving on emotional crumbs and experiencing someone who simply shows up, participates and moves towards you.Sometimes you don’t realise you’ve been surviving on fucking crackers until someone finally puts a whole meal in front of you.

Can he change? Yes. But that’s not the question.The real question is whether he wants to change — and how much of your life you’re prepared to spend waiting to find out.In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between real, lasting change and the temporary version that appears when someone is scared of losing you. Why potential can keep us stuck for years. Why understanding someone’s wounds doesn’t mean you have to live with the consequences of them. And the one question you need to ask yourself if you’re still waiting for your partner to become the person you know they could be.Because eventually, you have to stop asking “Can he change?”And start asking:“Is he?”This one might sting a little. But you probably need to hear it.

Beautiful people please listen to me .. I do not want you in this perpetual cycle of crazy and trust me when I say that when they reach out whether they do in a week month years even, do not take the bait. If they ever cared an ounce you would not have experienced the extreme heartache pain and abuse that you did. The good parts of them come with so much deception and lies and you are not being loved, you are being used. Ask me anything and if you would like a 1.1 hour call or 6 week / 13 week program please message me on IG .. you are not alone. Let me guide you out and through

In this episode, Sally reminds listeners that they are not alone in the struggles they face within relationships. Healing from toxic dynamics is a journey, and understanding what happened is often the first step toward reclaiming your strength and self-worth.Sally also shares insights from her book Confessions of a Relationship Junkie: Healing Narcissist Chains, where she openly reflects on how a relationship that once felt like love slowly became toxic — and why it was so difficult to leave.Through her story and the lessons she shares, this conversation offers encouragement, perspective, and a reminder that healing and transformation are always possible.

Sometimes the hardest relationship truth isn’t “Do they love me?” It’s “Can I actually breathe inside the way this relationship works?”You can have real love, chemistry, connection and history with someone — and still realise that the relationship requires too much adjusting, carrying, decoding or waiting.In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being loved and being loved well, why healing can change what you’re willing to tolerate, and the question that might clarify everything:Can you be fully yourself inside this love or are you exhausted trying to make it work?With love . Sally .. 1.1 coaching available

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I work privately with a small number of people who want clarity and a fresh perspective on their relationship or personal situation. If you’d like to work with me one-to-one, message me PRIVATE on Instagram or Facebook and I’ll send you the detailsHOW DO YOU KNOW YOU’VE FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON?How do you actually know?Because chemistry isn’t enough. Attraction isn’t enough. And even loving somebody deeply doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the right person to build your life with.In this episode, I’m giving you three things to look for including the question I think matters most:Can you relax inside the way this person loves you?Short, clear and straight to the point. If you’re questioning someone in your life right now, this one’s for you.Relationships: The Good and the Messy Sally Kalan ❤️

We don’t always need to be in a high vibe state ! Sharing a quick podcast on accepting that some days we don’t feel good and to honor that and not push it away .It’s ok to do nothing & feel tired and fed up!! just breathe through it as t will pass, we want to feel our feelings but not wallow in them. SHaring a bit of my own feelings on this as i am going through my own big changes atm!! This too shall pass ❤️

Here is a quick guided meditation to help remove stress at the end of the day ! Please message me at salbella3@gmail.com if you would like longer more intimate ones let me know Love feedback ❤️thank you for listening

In this episode, Sally shares a personal reflection on growing up without an emotionally available father and how that experience influenced the choices she made in relationships.Early emotional wounds can shape how we see love, connection, and ourselves, often leading us into patterns we don’t fully understand at the time. Sally speaks openly about how these experiences affected her life and how awareness is the first step toward change.While healing these patterns isn’t an overnight process, taking small, intentional steps each day can create powerful transformation over time.If this resonates with you and you’d like support understanding your own relationship patterns, you can connect with Sally on Instagram @sallykalan to learn more about working together through a one-off coaching session.

After a narcissistic relationship ends, it can be incredibly easy to stay focused on the other person analyzing their behaviour, trying to understand what happened, and consuming endless information about narcissism and toxic relationships. But eventually, recovery has to become about you.In this episode, I talk about what happens after the relationship ends and why there comes a point when we need to turn our attention away from understanding them and back towards ourselves. Because understanding what happened matters but so does processing it, releasing it, learning what it showed you about yourself, and ultimately allowing yourself to move forward.You don’t have to spend the rest of your life studying the person who hurt you. At some point, your own life deserves your attention again.That last line is very Sally and gives an older episode a really strong contemporary description without pretending the recording itself is new. ❤️

Episode starts 2 minutes in ....Hey my loves, this is why you can’t leave a toxic relationship, in todays episode I spell it out clearly The good news is you are not stuck & I'm here to guide you.let me know how you found my podcast today and please contact me if you wish to book a call . You deserve a real love where you are safe loved and supported. ! With love, always here for you, Sally❤️

Welcome my loves

Sometimes clarity comes from asking ourselves better questions.In this episode, Sally shares five powerful questions that helped her gain perspective in her own relationships and make clearer decisions. These questions can help you reflect, find your own answers, and move forward with greater self-trust.If you’ve been feeling stuck in relationship patterns or unsure about what to do next, this conversation is designed to help you see things more clearly.

How do you actually know when you’re over a narcissistic relationship?Sometimes you don’t even fully understand what you were living through until you’re finally out of it. And healing doesn’t always look the way we expect it to.In this episode, I’m talking about what happens as you begin to come out the other side — when the fog starts clearing, you begin seeing the relationship differently, and slowly, you start finding yourself again.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re truly healing, whether you’ve really let go, or why parts of the relationship can still affect you long after it’s ended, this episode is for you. ❤️1.1 coaching available with me @sallykalan

Breakups are never easy, and the way we move through them can make a real difference to how quickly we heal and regain our strength.In this episode, Sally shares three practical suggestions to help you begin moving forward after a relationship ends. While every situation is different, these steps can offer a helpful starting point for rebuilding your sense of stability and self.She also notes that recovery from narcissistic relationships can be more complex, and future episodes will explore that journey more deeply.

Morning lovelies ! I have lived the path and I know how much time I wasted in my life trying to figure things out on my own, that was until I invested in my own healing ‘ with what I know now I want to save you years of your life and give you what you need, to go from unhealthy to healthy love ! Book a FREE call to discuss with me how I can help you on your life journey, booking at my bio on Instagram @sallykalan or via website . I see you❤️

Lovelies I'm keeping this short and succinct .. ❤️ here's the thing they often come back, in fact nearly always, and how do you know if it's a Hoover back or a real change? well have a listen and please be aware . I know we want to believe they have changed but rarely they do !!! So let me know if this has happened to you ... ? I'm here for you ... let me know if you have managed to break free and how you are doing . 1.1 coaching available ..sending you long

What do you do when you’ve prayed for love, you’ve done the healing, you’ve asked God for guidance… and you’re still waiting?In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to trust God when you don’t know the outcome yet especially when it comes to love.Because maybe trusting God isn’t about sitting still and waiting for Him to hand you the answer. Maybe it’s about living your life fully, listening to yourself, staying open, and trusting that what is meant for you doesn’t require you to force it into existence.Sometimes God changes the circumstances.And sometimes, before anything around you changes, He changes you.If you’re in a season of waiting, wondering, praying or asking God “When is it going to be my turn?” this one is for you. ❤️